Is it me? Or is this really good news?

What worries me about the nature of this sort of advertising is the 'it's OK to' concept, becoming more and more popular. It is OK to........... But is it? Or, is it in bad taste? We have one where I live: 'Be buried with dignity' and contact such and such a funeral home for basic cremation deals. Everyone should be buried with dignity irrelevant of cost, location, status, etc. Have we gone too far with consumerism and advertising?

One thing here is we get no advertising through the mail now. Thank goodness. Only emails which are easily zonked,you don’t even have to look at them. The cost of postage is so high and the delivery so bad - guess there has to be some positives! Just use it as fuel for the fire, chuck it out.

I have given one-off donations online to certain charities when a friend or relative has died. It's not a monthly subscription. So why do they bombard me with unsolicited email, gifts etc and use the money I donated sending me stickers, badges, fake flowers and pleas for more money that they can then waste?

I'm sorry but I laughed. This is appallingly bad taste and shows how low the sales pitches will stoop. Probably thought up by a 20 -something. Reminds me (not sure why) when my poor dad was towards the end of his life, the GP visited over the EAster weekend. She started filling out a form, placed it on the table beside my dad and said "I'll leave this with you; you might need it because I'm not on call on Monday". It was a death certificate. My dad actually lived about a year longer. Absolutely horrific.

You were in a very fortunate position, not everyone coud afford to do so, don't judge others by your own actions, and NEVER ASSUME.

all adverts on tv (I admit afternoon tv) guess they know the age that are at home at that time. They sound so happy as if they are sirting a holiday so guess if yu don't like it you can change your mond and come back!!???

mabon1

You were in a very fortunate position, not everyone coud afford to do so, don't judge others by your own actions, and NEVER ASSUME.

Pardon?

I also burst out laughing, but it did the trick of having your husband open the envelope even though we can say it was in poor taste.

I’m going for a simple cremation, by far the cheapest option. Then my beneficiaries can spend some money on a family & friends gathering, if they wish, at a time that works for them. I go to a lot of funerals as part of my work and the best send-offs seem to be the simplest and they’re the least hassle. I’m going to a friends family gathering in November for her dad, we’re all taking food and we’re writing in a memory book and basically having party in honour of him; he died in July.

He annoys the hell out of me! Sat there all smug in his bubble bath. After the bit about Millie being such a smart cookie he's then going on about the sausage rolls..😵‍💫

I get sick of funeral adverts, life insurance, also all the cancer charities ones they just like to remind you your life is nearly over, they drip feed you bad news everyday.

My friend has just been diagnosed with inoperable cancer....I don't think she'd find this good news. They might be better giving an indication of the contents on the envelope.

He only went for the sausage rolls 😂

Poor taste. Not funny.

mabon1

You were in a very fortunate position, not everyone coud afford to do so, don't judge others by your own actions, and NEVER ASSUME.

What? Why? Who?

Whst do you mean?

I think it is in bad taste and no thought for how opening such a thing could affect someone emotionally. I agree with David49.

We see lots of ads on TV: I just take no notice but DH is quite upset by them. I do understand that they are trying to normalise death...whilst selling their products!Makes me cynical.

Personally - I just think they're wasting my time to do more than glance at it long enough to see that it is bumph and not really something for me and it heads straight in the bin.

As a single childless person I just think that I've done all the planning I really need to do:
- made a Will and thankfully I knew a copy of it should be lodged at that national registry office for wills (as the useless local solicitor I'd gone to for this had overlooked that point!!!! and I had to get them to do it at that stage)

- told everyone that if I keel over of the family heart attack they are NOT to resuscitate me

- with it being Wales I live in now = I've got it officially on record they can NOT have any of my organs come the time (and that was before I read the horror story about someone still being alive when they started cutting him to grab his organs for donation in this morning's "Daily Mail" online!!!!! and he's not the first they've done this to)

I don't particularly care what happens to my body after I am no longer living in it - and what matters to me is they leave it alone for 3 days after I'm dead (so we're all sure I really am dead and no longer need it to live in).

Funeral bumph
Totally agree very bad taste

i get some mail regarding funeral plans but mostly it is phone call's as i have a house phone, i also have a very dark sense of humour, i tell them i have a very rare medical condition and have promised my body to the hospital, when they ask about afterwards i tell them i am sorry there won't be much left so i told them to stick whatever is left in the bin, hearing them trying to figure out what to say makes me laugh. sorry if i upset anyone.

25Avalon

Another reason to regulate funeral services.

The firms that sell prepaid funeral plans are now regulated by the FCA and money paid over is covered by the Financial Services Compensation Scheme.

Tasteless definitely. No wonder there’s a move towards strict regulation for funeral directors- at the moment anyone can start a business anywhere- even out of their garage which is why there have been some horrible incidents reported.

I ignore this kind of advertising as I have no desire to preplan my funeral, but it does remind me I need to get some things more in order. My will needs updating and I need to sort out POA. I need to sort a list of where all my assets are with account numbers, password etc. and actually talk to my offspring about it but procrastination prevents me getting on with it. Hopefully I won't leave them suddenly with these things not done!
A friend, who was single, not only planned everything but even recorded a sermon to be played at the service. That was slightly odd, but I did admire her forethought as she realised she didn't have any family to take charge of the arrangements so it would have fallen to friends. However I wouldn't go so far as my kids will cope. I assume most people who prearrange their funeral are people who don't have mmuch to leave behind and want to protest their family from huge bills but I'm not in that position.

I’m not sure we can (or should) filter everything through how it might trigger ‘someone with a terminal illness’. Taken to extremes, that would ban any mention of a future pleasure. Should we not mention the joys (?) of family life because someone might have gone through a miscarriage? Not mention physical sports because someone might have a disability? Ignore anything intellectual because there are slow learners?

BeverleyJB

25Avalon

Another reason to regulate funeral services.

The firms that sell prepaid funeral plans are now regulated by the FCA and money paid over is covered by the Financial Services Compensation Scheme.

It wasn’t/isn’t just about the money but other irregularities.