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If you live alone, what’s a typical day?

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LaCrepescule Fri 29-Nov-24 15:46:44

I’m 67 and it’s just me and the dog. My daughter lives close by but I don’t have grandchildren (yet.) I like my own company but have been feeling a bit aimless recently as I’m recovering from surgery and am not as active as usual.
A normal day would be two dog walks, meet friends, chores and a bit of shopping.
Interspersed with reading and in the evening a good series/film on TV.
I’m hoping to do volunteering for Age UK and in my local cathedral.
I do feel I spend too much time being idle though and am experiencing the occasional feeling of loneliness.
How do you single ladies pass your time? Do you ever feel lonely?

LaCrepescule Fri 29-Nov-24 15:48:08

Oh yes and far too much time on my phone! I seem to be addicted to Instagram and know I need to limit it.

Dinahmo Fri 29-Nov-24 15:54:05

I think that it can take a long time to recover from surgery and you should try not to worry about your current period of idleness.

After my first op I felt like you and every day the nurse that came in to change my dressing told me to relax. There is nothing wrong with watching tv, apart from finding something you actually want to watch.

You should get your mojo back soon and also volunteering.

Good luck

AreWeThereYet Fri 29-Nov-24 15:57:57

I don't have a dog but I do have a MrA - not quite the same thing I know, but pretty close. Sometimes I would like a bit more time alone, but MrA seems to be tied to my hip at the moment.

My days are much the same as yours probably, as a general rule. In the Summer more gardening, in the Winter more decorating or doing bigger cleaning jobs in between going out and about. Not so much reading anymore, sadly, now my eyesight is very bad but I do enjoy YouTube and trying out new things I see on there.

Grandma70s Fri 29-Nov-24 16:16:54

I am very good at doing nothing. I potter about on the iPad, reading news of family and friends and looking at interesting topics. I’m in constant touch with my sons and their partners. I watch a lot of tv, mostly news, or comedy if there’s any worth watching.

I do read, but not as much as I used to. I find it quite difficult to find things I want to read now.

I have help with housework, so don’t spend time on that, thank goodness.

I would say I’m never bored. Far too much interesting stuff to think about. Not lonely, either, except I would like a cat - my retirement flat doesn’t allow pets.

Grandmabatty Fri 29-Nov-24 16:23:30

I live alone and rarely feel lonely. Two days a week I look after my grandsons which gives a structure to my week. One day a week my daughter pops in. I attend an art class fairly regularly and often meet friends for coffee, breakfast or lunch. At home, I will browse social media and watch tv or listen to radio. I read too. I use time to learn a foreign language or paint. Often I'll spend time in the garden. I will be volunteering soon at my grandsons school. I find nights in the winter long and tedious so go to bed early and listen to Audible or read. I often do cross stitch or occasionally knit. I enjoy having the freedom to potter

MissAdventure Fri 29-Nov-24 16:25:31

It takes me all day, and very frequent rests to keep up with ensuring the flat is ticking over,these days.

It used to be a treat, being off work, but not now.

harrigran Fri 29-Nov-24 16:31:49

I still do all my own housework. I read a lot, surf the bet and like to watch TV series I one sitting.
I never got my mojo back after my cancer operation 8 years ago. Don't go out much and never on my own.

Greyduster Fri 29-Nov-24 16:39:27

I try and maintain a routine of sorts. Monday is the only weekday I have no commitment now. I have two volunteering afternoons, then an afternoon with a writers group at the local library and a morning with a walking group. These are all things that bring me into contact with people. Weekends are a bit of a mare, but sometimes I cook a Sunday lunch which lures the family in like the Bisto Kids😁! A weekend where I see no-one has my chin on the floor, but it is what it is and I’m slowly getting used to it.

LaCrepescule Fri 29-Nov-24 19:16:42

You all sound lovely and very content. I think I might be going through a blip; the winter nights don’t help as I love taking the dog for long evening walks in the spring/summer.
I think early nights with a book are a good idea!

Jeanathome Fri 29-Nov-24 19:21:00

To be fair, unlikely people will share if they are struggling?

I'm not single but might as well be some days.

I have various things I do on each day of the week.I find if I can get my day off to a decent start, I'm OK.

Hope your recovery goes well.

Chardy Fri 29-Nov-24 20:24:41

An hour walking dogs, an hour sit-down afterwards
Four days a week and 1 day a fortnight I have commitments of a social/educational/family nature which take 2-6hrs
I do crafts with mindless TV on (ie I can follow it without having to concentrate)
I spend a disproportionate amount of time on social media
(Another Audible fan)

Redcar Fri 29-Nov-24 20:53:43

At the moment I’m recovering from a hip operation so not doing much at all, apart from short walks and exercises. Normally I would be doing housework, washing and ironing, gardening if the weather is fine, a bit of shopping. Once fit I intend to join the gym so that I can swim again. Sometimes I look after my daughter’s dog & do the school run for her
Most of the time I’m fairly happy to just potter.

GrannyIvy Fri 29-Nov-24 21:37:03

I don’t live alone but feel very alone a lot of the time. I keep busy with my grandchildren and friends . I’m ok most of the time.

tanith Fri 29-Nov-24 22:52:09

I live alone and struggle to fill my days sometimes I’m not a ‘joiner’ so no clubs etc for me. Mornings are usually keeping house, pottering in the garden in Summer, I walk a lot, read a lot and watch tv in the evening. My lot are all busy working some 6 days a week so I visit them when they aren’t busy but some weeks it’s just a phone call. I don’t really knit anymore it strains my eyes. I miss just popping out for the day now I’m alone it’s no fun on your own. I’m very boring 😉

crazyH Fri 29-Nov-24 23:00:44

I live alone too. But on days like today, I feel good about it. I knew I wouldn’t be having ‘drop-in’s’, so I stayed in my PJs till noon; wrapped my GC’s pressies….read the news online. Just finished IAC… glad that Jane’s gone. I didn’t take to her. I love GKBarrie? I’ve not seen her before, but I think she’s lovely. Up in bed now , but don’t feel sleepy

Macadia Fri 29-Nov-24 23:10:12

I long to live alone. I have not had a single time of relaxation. Some day, I hope to live alone and have peace and quiet, nature and dogs, children (maybe GC) and no dishes to wash up and no supper to prepare. Maybe I am asking too much. Most likely, if and when I get there, I will long for those times when I wasn't so alone. Life plays tricks on us.

My uncle always told me that half the world is single wishing they were married and the other half are married wishing they were single!

crazyH Fri 29-Nov-24 23:28:04

My ‘singleness’ is due to divorce. No intention of changing my status. Macadia - I guess you are young - make the best of it !.

twiglet77 Fri 29-Nov-24 23:31:03

I’m 68, long been single. I live with two dogs and two cats, walk a friend’s dog with mine twice a day, tidy the garden on bin day, do laundry on a good drying day, go to one or other supermarket twice a week. I do minimal housework, read a lot, waste time on GN / MN / FB…! Occasionally help with one of my young GC, not regularly but it’s a joy to see them. I love retirement and living alone.

Charleygirl5 Fri 29-Nov-24 23:47:25

I live on my own and have no family. I spend too much time on this computer.

I have a cleaner but I appear to be washing for the local neighbourhood. Where it comes from I have no idea.

I do meet with friends for a coffee a few times each month which I do enjoy.

I was an "only" child so that I assume helps me now.

I am happy with my own company.

Macadia Sat 30-Nov-24 01:41:09

crazyH

My ‘singleness’ is due to divorce. No intention of changing my status. Macadia - I guess you are young - make the best of it !.

CrazyH, I'm just guessing that I have 2 to 5 to 9 years left here. So I guess it doesn't matter if "old" or "young" or whatever that means. It just means healthy or good genes or lucky, right?

I am making the best of it. I'm not usually a complainer about things. Just a rare dreamer sometimes.

Macadia Sat 30-Nov-24 01:42:19

CharleyGirl you said it best! "I am happy with my own company."

Grammaretto Sat 30-Nov-24 05:35:20

I have been a widow for 4 years now. I'm mid 70s. I find I need a routine and company.
I rarely see my 4 DC and 7 DGC though we text and talk frequently.

I joined U3A and other groups which means there's something of interest every day if I want that.

I volunteer one morning a week regularly and sometimes extra shifts.

I host volunteers from around the world who stay for weeks at a time and help with the house and garden. and keep me company.

I also let out part of my house so I know there's another person nearby though we live separately. I have a pottery studio which I share with others who have become friends.

I still live in a large house which I love but have plans to downsize next year. This frightens me as I don't know how I will adjust to new surroundings and single lifestyle. My family and friends are encouraging me to move before I'm too old and I can understand their reasons. I am due a replacement hip soon. I daresay I will adapt.

I think I must be unusual when I read how most of you are very content with your own company, walking the dog or watching TV.

grandMattie Sat 30-Nov-24 05:55:20

I’m in my late 70s and was widowed 2 years ago, after nearly 50 married. Last year i moved across the country to be near my DD and her family. I only see them once a week; we rarely telephone as I’m anxious not to interfere in their lives.

I am very alone as I knew no one here and unused to be single. Although an introvert, I made a conscious effort to join everything that might interest me especially church stuff. I am now so busy that I’m exhausted…. It’s not good to have little or no daily human contact.

The church has been especially kind and welcoming, so I’m part of the Saturday coffee and chat, on the PCC, the host for a weekly FAB cafe…

Join things, go to meetings and give them a chance to accept you before you decide it’s not for you - yes,I know there are established “gangs” but you can be included if you make the effort.

MissChateline Sat 30-Nov-24 06:07:58

I retired at 60 and I live on my own but my partner lives a few doors down the terrace. So I have company most of the time and time to myself when I need it. My partner works 3 days a week and at the age of 69 I decided that I wanted part time paid work and found myself a job two or three days a week. I love my job, selling high quality outdoor hiking and travelling clothes and gear. My commute is two minutes along a river side. My week has a structure and I get a great discount on clothing that I really like. I feel very much part of the community of the small town I live in and my wages go immediately into a “ holiday” fund for backpacking around SE Asia.
I volunteer at a community meal waitressing once a week and hike up on the moors when I can. Summer weekends are spent away in my Campervan and I’ve recently got a personal trainer and started an intensive transformation program. My next session is on the morning of my 70th birthday.
Family is important but they don’t live nearby so I see them when I can. I still love pottering around my house and reading. I do get bored but try to make sure I have quiet time every day. I have excellent good health and take part in medical trials for a bit of extra cash. I consider myself very lucky