I want to seek out opinions on here since this forum is mostly the age of what a MIL would be.
I have been married to my DH for 5 years now and we have 2 children. I have what I consider a very positive and good relationship with my MIL. However one thing that really hurts me is the discrepancy in how I’m treated vs my DH and my children. My MIL goes all out on their birthdays with cards, checks, gifts etc and for me I’m lucky to get a text saying happy birthday. On Father’s Day my MIL gets my husband a nice Father’s Day gift and I get nothing. I always get very hurt and upset by this bc considering how my MIL treats me when I text her and when we visit is in complete contradiction to how she treats me on my special days in comparison to how my husband and kids get treated on theirs. I want to ask if this behavior is normal for a MIL towards her DIL but deep down I know that no it’s not normal for a MIL towards single out her DIL from the rest of her family in terms of birthdays and Mother’s Day.
It isn’t about the gifts as much as it’s about feeling like she doesn’t value me as a member of the family her DIL, her son’s wife, and the mother to her grandchildren. What the message is sending is my son is worth getting love and appreciation on Father’s Day as a good father but my DIL isn’t worth being showered with love and appreciation on Mother’s Day.
I’m just hurt that I’m the only one recognized differently. Surely she has to see how that would hurt me. I’ve been itching to say something for years now but what do I say? I really want to ask her why she ignores my special days.
