In need of GN's good advice

Your mutual friend should not have broken the confidence,
Say nothing and leave her to deal with it.

Pretend you never heard it! Your friend should not have told you. Leave her to sort it out as best she can .

Pretend you never heard it . Your friend should not have involved you. Leave her to sort it out. Good luck.

Thank you all so much for your comments and advice.
This morning I rang my friend to say that she must deal with it. I have 2 poorly family members at the moment so have other, more important, things going on with them.
My friend intends to give her until the end of next week to repay the money, Brownie points for those who guessed it was cash related, before she tells the remainder of the group.
I really appreciated your help. Sometimes you go round and round in circles struggling to make a decision. Thank you all. X .

Grandmabatty

Could you go back to her, tell her you feel very uncomfortable with holding this information. Explain the effect on the group and give her something long to fix it or you will have to let the group know

Sage advice Grandmabatty. ✔️
I’m with you.

Sarnia

Thank you all so much for your comments and advice.
This morning I rang my friend to say that she must deal with it. I have 2 poorly family members at the moment so have other, more important, things going on with them.
My friend intends to give her until the end of next week to repay the money, Brownie points for those who guessed it was cash related, before she tells the remainder of the group.
I really appreciated your help. Sometimes you go round and round in circles struggling to make a decision. Thank you all. X .

So this person has stolen money from the rest of the group. I’m afraid that’s a crime and the rest of the group need to know that they have a thief in their midst. Your friend should not have agreed to be complicit and agreed time for the money to be put back.
I may sound harsh but the rest of the group, as it was their funds should be made aware.

I would not have said anything to anyone else. You now know if you tell your friend anything personal she will tell others as she told you. If someone told me they had taken money from a kitty I would do as your friend has and tell them to pay it back.
I have a v good friend but I wouldn't tell her anything very personal as she tells me personal things about her other friends, so I know she's a lovely person but can't keep things to herself.

Please do not say anything.

Your friend had no right to break a confidence, or to burden you with this knowledge.

If or when it all comes out, if anyone blames you for not having spoken out now, you can rightly say that you did not discover the fact yourself, you were told about it, and made to promise not to let it go further.

The others in the group should be able to respect you for keeping quiet, and more importantly, you will be able to respect yourself.

I agree, say nothing, It sounds like you should not have been told it and unless anyone is going to come to serious harm (in which case I would go back to your good friend) I would keep out of it.

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how long do you think it could be for the situation to be resolved ?
if you think it can be done then give her a timeframe

I agree with many others. You shouldn’t have been put in this position but your good friend obviously trust your discretion, something she obviously didn’t give to the person who has confided in her! I think it would depend on the circumstances originally. Did they tell your good friend of the wrong doing because they thought she might have discovered it themselves, or because she needed to confess? If it’s the latter then maybe give them some time to rectify it. Though I would be tempted to stick my head in the sand I would worry that the rest of the group discover the misdeed and then discover you already knew! I think I would tell your good friend to set a time ultimatum and then warn the person that has done wrong that SHE will tell the rest of the group. And they must then step down from the position of trust within the group.

Brave of the mutual friend to confess. Everyone deserves a second chance. Keep schtum and practice watchful waiting.
And even if there is fallout, remain impartial.

your good friend should not have told you!

You have broken the confidence further, as has your friend.
Now you both know, is there any way you can help recover this money?

Did your friend catch the guilty party out? Would whatever it was have carried on otherwise? Or did the perpetrator realise he/she had made an error of judgement and done something silly in a moment of madness? Or was he/she forced into taking the action due to pressure from another person?
Too many questions!
Your good friend could just want someone else to know in case it all goes horribly wrong and she becomes implicated in some way.
If you think that whatever it is was just a "one-off" bit of stupidity that can be fixed and can help or offer advice then that is probably what your good friend is looking for - backup!
If you can't help or advise then tell your good friend that you wish you hadn't been involved but as you are, you expect the matter to be resolved by ..... and give a timescale which YOU consider is appropriate. You should not have been involved and cannot expect to be so indefinitely.
If the matter has not been resolved withing the time given, then you will have to find a way of leaking the relevant info to the group, without them knowing where it came from. Who knows, depending on the circumstances they may all perfer to help the person involved rather than persecute him/her.
Good luck!

eazybee

Your mutual friend should not have broken the confidence,
Say nothing and leave her to deal with it.

Exactly this.....and I would be very disappointed with the person who shared the problem in the first place!
Watch and wait......and when it turns into a shit-show, deny all knowledge.

Your friendcshould not have told you, she either could not cope with the knowledge of knowing or she wanted to pass on gossip. Either way I don't think much of any of them, the person who done the deed and the passer on.
I would not want to be involved with either of them again as the trust would be gone.

Your friend is a tattle-tale. She has burdened you with this knowledge, when she was supposed to keep mum. Since you are not supposed to know, please know tat it would be embarrassing for the perpetrator to know that the person she trusted has betrayed her. Also... do not trust your friend with secrets.

I think you are duty bound to tell the group. You will be seen to be guilty by association if it came out. Tell your friend what you are going to do. She cannot be allowed back in the group with such a betrayal.

Dont say a word to anyone, then you cannot be accused of naot keeping a confidence, no one would ever confide in you again.