Paying for alcohol detox

Two things:

1. I agree that the person with the alcohol problem needs to be the one to make the decision. You can't force someone to accept help they aren't ready to accept.

2. Detox is a great start, but for many people it's not enough. Addiction is something people start for a reason - as my nursing student said, nobody wakes up one day and thinks, "Wow, today would be a great day to start a meth addiction" (substitute whatever addiction is at issue). Unless and until they're prepared to address whatever caused them to drink or use drugs in the first place, and to learn better coping mechanisms, there is a substantial risk of relapse. Note I am NOT saying that detox is no good. Detox, IMO, is fantastic for getting the substance out of people's systems and putting them in a place where they can think more clearly. The issue is that detox is the start of an ongoing process, it's not the be-all and end-all.

A friend of mine was an alcoholic for 30 years before he finally accepted he needed to change, and that was only after he fell and split his head open one night. It broke up his marriage and he lost touch with his son. He came close to losing his job many times and it was eventually his boss who insisted he went to a rehab centre. He was apparently totally against it initially and was there over a month before he finally started to make some headway. He's now been sober for nearly 20 years.

Addictions are hard - whether it's drinking, smoking, gambling, porn - there's a chemical response involved, not just someone wanting to do something. It took me about 15 attempts to give up smoking. But then my boss did it in one go, so it depends also on will power.

Save your money. Abide by everything the previous posters have said. It is sound advice. Been there, done that Former husband went into several detox clinics. When he was in one of them, the doctor there telephoned me. Mr D told them that his drinking was all my fault! Er, um --- I did not lift the glass to his mouth!!

I would have thought you have to want to seriously stop drinking for any detox to work.

Her mother should not consider taking money out of her property to provide a detox.

valdavi

I would do it in her shoes, unless it's obvious her daughter's not fully committed.
A house is bricks and mortar, a chance to save a young life is beyond price.
We lost a family member, young woman, to this. She was amazing, will always miss her.
The fact her mum's re-mortgaging her house might give her just that extra wee bit of motivation to stay on the programme that tips the balance.

And then what happens, god forbid that mum defaults on the mortgage.
Don’t rescue to the point where you have to be rescued.
Obviously you have never lived with an addict.
I remember a psychiatrist explaining to me how selfish addicts are.
That fix, that drink, that bet on a horse is all that matters.