New baby gift-unsure of appropriate amount

(*UTBB*). When my DD’s married, both were adamant they didn’t want children. My BF’s son was the opposite, so when his DD came along - BF said I could share her DGC as I’d be unlikely to have my own.
It was a lovely gesture for 10 years before (my) DGS1 came along when DD1 was 38, followed by DGS2, when DD2 was also 38.

I too had the IKEA chairs here for them and donated them when no longer needed.

My 2nd GGD was born two weeks ago, my GS and his partner who we have hardly ever met.
She does not really like us but did bring the first one to see us when she was a few days old.
Since then we may have seen her 4/5 times.
When the first one was born I bought a Moses basket , all the bedding and one of those babygro things babies sleep in.
My S paid for loads of stuff.

I put £100 in her bank account and £50 at Christmas and her 1st b’day.
Never got thanked at all.
Second one we have just been told 2nd has been born and 2 photos on WhatsApp.
I sent £50 worth of 6/9 months baby clothes from M&S , not even a text message in return.
As we are not going to be part of their lives my family are just opting out.
So I am happy to give to friends and neighbours families who show such appreciation.

I tend to crochet a blanket for expected babies, sometimes knitting a matching hat or jacket, too.

When I left work to have my first baby, I received a beautiful nightdress, for me. To have something for myself along with all the wonderful baby gifts was so thoughtful that I still remember that from 53 years ago.

I was bought a bed jacket.
It is now 60 years ago and I don’t think today’s new mums would know what a bed jacket is.

I think a blanket is a nice idea if a girl (sorry to be specific) as the recipient I gave one to 7 years ago still uses it for her toys!

A food delivery voucher. Give my and dad a night off cooking.

Calendargirl

If you rarely see her or her parents, is a gift necessary?

Why not just send a card?

I agree. Why do you feel the need to send a gift at all? In fact, why even send a card?

We have a new great niece who I’ll probably never see as she lives in Ireland. I bought her a small wooby type blanket held by a small rabbit from the White Company. I’m always tempted to buy an outfit but talk myself. out of it because my taste might not be the parents, and babies seem to be mostly in baby grows for the first few months. I think the Deliveroo voucher is a great idea, and though totally practical, a big pack of nappies would probably be much appreciated.

Daddima, because we are related and keep in touch by messages on significant dates. In the opposite direction there have been cards and gifts and I have done this for other relatives within the family and I would think it very rude not to do so. Lots of great ideas, thank you all

What about a nice Royal daulton baby themed money box with some money in

hamster58

Daddima, because we are related and keep in touch by messages on significant dates. In the opposite direction there have been cards and gifts and I have done this for other relatives within the family and I would think it very rude not to do so. Lots of great ideas, thank you all

Ah, I see. I misunderstood. I keep forgetting the many ways we can keep in touch nowadays!