I am concerned about dd and her family, in particular sil. I am getting reports back from other dd that he has been harsh to both gc, manhandling gd and pushing gs aged 5 to the ground, plus yelling at the gc that he hates them and wishes they weren’t there. He is then remorseful. When asked by 2nd dd the 1st says he is regularly like this. The gc can be challenging.I have seen none of this.
I have always felt dd was lucky to have him as she is not the easiest at least not to dh and myself. From what I see he does more than his share of looking after the children and housework including cooking. Both he and dd have busy jobs but dd is higher profile and earns more not that this should matter. They have a nice house in a good area. They have lovely holidays and send us family photos of them seemingly enjoying themselves. All the holidays are child orientated and in that respect the gc come first.
2nd DD wants to mention to him. Dh tells me that it’s all hearsay and I should stop being concerned. But I am. I tell dh it’s our gc and we should keep aware even if we do nothing. I have been worried that 1st dd goes off early every morning to the gym and seems obsessed with running marathons all the time. Sil says he doesn’t mind, but then I learn dd goes to bed at 9 leaving him to sit around on his own all evening. This doesn’t seem good to me. Sil’s sister has also raised concerns with 2nd dd that her brother is losing it with the children. I suspect that he is at the end of his tether. Dh says keep out of it which I will do but I feel angry with Dh for his doubting Thomas attitude and poo pooing my worries, so as I can’t talk to him I am on GN talking to fellow grans. Viewpoints appreciated although not necessarily acted on.
