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NotSpaghetti

My mother-in-law has heart failure- ask someone in the hospital to talk to you about it as it doesn't generally suddenly "fail" all at once - is that why she was admitted?

I truly feel for you.
Please make sure you practice saying "no" as self-preservation and to give you time to think things through properly and to get you through this first scary and confusing period.

My heart goes out to you.

Thank you for your message.
She was admitted with severe breathlessness & heart failure subsequently diagnosed.

You’ve got a lot on your plate.

If finances are available use them to ease your load.

Ask if you can take some unpaid leave.

If you can employ a home help for your dad do it.
If he says no then employ one for yourself to keep your house running.

Use ready meals as much as you want.

Use taxis if the driving is arduous or parking is stressful.

If money is tight I would still ask for some leave.

In short use other people for the things that others can do and save yourself for the things that only you can do, which is to be there for the people in your life.

I learnt this lesson the hard way, trying to be the person who could do it all💐

My mother-in-law has heart failure- ask someone in the hospital to talk to you about it as it doesn't generally suddenly "fail" all at once - is that why she was admitted?

I truly feel for you.
Please make sure you practice saying "no" as self-preservation and to give you time to think things through properly and to get you through this first scary and confusing period.

My heart goes out to you.

AgeUk are a very good source of information and support.

Make sure you don't take too much on your own shoulders.

Has your father had a diagnosis of dementia ruled out?

Ask for an assessment by NHS and Social Services for both of them. The hospital should help with this.