Grandchildren woes

I have contacted them before, but things have escalated with my daughter leaving the children so often. I think I will.

Social Services really do need to be informed……either anonymously or openly. I would have concerns about the girls sleeping on mattresses in mums room when this boyfriend is staying there too.

Surely, your daughters needs the agreement of the girls’ father to be able to take them abroad to live and the 9 year old does sound to be very underweight although you don’t say anything about her height which might be relevant.

Is there any way you could physically help out with the children? Even if you only had them sleep over at your house from time to time. You could adhere to the vegan food if you have to but make sure there’s plenty of it. A big plate of chips is vegan! Your daughter sounds as if she is so besotted with the boyfriend that she can’t see what she’s doing to the girls. Tread gently as you don’t want to fall out with them. Only you know how to approach your own daughter but you tea do need to say something.

Sound advice here. Please act on it , contact Social services and do it tomorrow. Tel them exactly what you have told us. Your daughter is not making her girls her top priority- so please take action. Something very wrong here , I recognise how distressing this must be for you , however your Grandchildren are the most important priority. Be brave , please keep posting people on GN care and will be supportive. Needless to say ' yes I would be very concerned indeed'
Well done for contacting GN, your first post too! You are clearly very anxious about what us happening. follow your gut instinct. Good luck and keep us posted if that helps. 💐💐

Yes I would be very concerned too. I think you do need to tell your daughter how worried you are, even if it will mean that she will take offence. Tell her that you are concerned about your GDs weight and that both girls are unhappy with the current situation and her future plans. Be calm but positive. If she won’t listen to you and goes off in a huff then I’m afraid you will have no choice but to speak to Social Services even if it does mean a falling out with your daughter.

I would contact social services. Your daughter is not putting the children's welfare at heart.
I would be very unhappy at the thought of her travelling with her boyfriend, and home schooling.
The 9 year old is seriously underweight. I'm sorry to say this, but she sounds rather feckless.

Yes I d be very concerned
The 9 year old sounds quite underweight to me I believe that any parent needs permission from the absent parent before taking children out the country even for a holiday
Can you have the girls if she would let you ?
This sounds very wrong to me I d seek advice

Yes. Any point in contacting Social Services?