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Found an old ex's diary

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JulieAT Mon 05-Jan-26 17:55:49

I finally got around to putting all my diaries (kept from the age of 16) in date order and was befuddled to see I had two from 1979. I then realised I have a diary from my old boyfriend. I'm now 71 and haven't seen him in decades. We definitely don't hold a candle for each other but we are both on FB and exchange cards at Xmas. Should I tell him and ask him if he wants it back or just quietly destroy it? It was a very volatile time in our volatile relationship.

Flippin2 Tue 06-Jan-26 17:43:07

Leave well alone,the past is the past and there it belongs

DizzyDenise Tue 06-Jan-26 18:42:50

It sounds to me like you still hold a candle for him? Maybe trying to recreate your lost youth? I'm guilty of this myself. If you're now single and he is, why not?? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If he's still married or in a relationship, then no.

GrannySomerset Tue 06-Jan-26 20:59:22

I have a collection of letters written to a close friend over many years and they are a great reminder of who I once was and what life was like, spanning my first job to being the mother of teenage children. There are also letters written to and from DH from before we married and then when he was away for a term, leaving me with two small children and the second term of my teacher training course. They conjure up our younger selves and a past time and I would like my GD to read them one day when she is much older.

I shredded my teenage diaries and am rather sorry I did. I took up occasional diary writing when DH’s Parkinson’s was taking him away and am still moved sometimes to write about both the past and the present. Someone some day will have to decide whether to read or keep these records of old age - much less interesting than those earlier in my life.

Mojack26 Tue 06-Jan-26 21:57:24

You keep it or destroy it...Leave it in the past where it belongs...

Dempie55 Tue 06-Jan-26 23:01:16

I don’t even know why you’re asking this. You exchange Christmas cards, so you have his address. Just post it back to him, it might bring him some joy to recapture memories from his youth.