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Errrr … a little tricky to word … what’s a little girl’s equivalent to a 'willy'?

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GrannieWalker Wed 11-Feb-26 23:25:42

What do Gran’s, parents, carers, everyone (in the UK) call a little girl’s equivalent of a little boy’s willy these days?
I’ve asked my three DSs and two DD-i-Ls but I think they all said different things, and whatever they said went in one ear, out the other and didn’t register.
I don’t know when it’s likely to come up with one of my grandchildren but I want to be ready. Is there a name used generally these days that is as well accepted as ‘willy’?
What is amazing me is I don’t have any recall of a name for such (I am being coy, aren’t I ?!?!) when I was a little girl, and neither do my friends!

Lathyrus3 Thu 12-Feb-26 09:16:45

Crossed posts with you Sago.

eddiecat78 Thu 12-Feb-26 09:32:59

I'm really not narrow minded or embarrassed but , to me, it is very odd that a grandparent feels they need to know in such detail what to call these parts. What sort of discussions are you anticipating having with these young children?!

Granmarderby10 Thu 12-Feb-26 09:35:05

Some of these nicknames for genitals are disrespectful to any girl named Lulu or even Fanny (a very popular Victorian name) until it it seems it was hijacked, though that’s what “we” girls called it if needs be.

Sago Thu 12-Feb-26 09:35:54

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25Avalon Thu 12-Feb-26 09:43:30

A friend’s son referred to a girl’s baby hole when he was young. Never really liked it but accurate I suppose.

GrannieWalker Thu 12-Feb-26 09:45:06

It is genuine. Please just forget it everyone.
I really did think Gransnet would be able to give me a simple 2026 answer to what I thought was a clear question that deserves an unequivocal answer.
Thank you to the Grans who could see my genuine request but also to those who voiced genuine concerns of safeguarding. I'll go back to all the parents and use a WhatsApp group to get agreement. I hope!

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CariadAgain Thu 12-Feb-26 09:54:06

Sitting here thinking "Times have changed since my day - though for the better" as it's something I wouldn't have dared talk about with my mother (who was a right prude). Personally - I guess I'm still in the habit of not really talking about that - at my age! - but would probably call it a "fanny" if it came to it (as it feels like a fun/slightly slang type word to use to me).

annodomini Thu 12-Feb-26 10:01:14

I suppose 'urethra' is too much of a tongue twister! My DGGD, three and a half, calls it her vagina, as it's all her mum (my DGD) could think of on the spur of the moment!

Witzend Thu 12-Feb-26 10:07:50

I’ve heard a Gdd say fanjo, which I quite like, but I think ‘fanny’ is Ok, too.

It’s a shame we don’t have a universally understood, friendly equivalent of ‘willy’. The ‘correct words are IMO ugly and sound over clinical. And in any case, they are so often used incorrectly - so many people say ‘vagina’ when they actually mean ‘vulva’.

eddiecat78 Thu 12-Feb-26 10:09:51

GrannieWalker

It is genuine. Please just forget it everyone.
I really did think Gransnet would be able to give me a simple 2026 answer to what I thought was a clear question that deserves an unequivocal answer.
Thank you to the Grans who could see my genuine request but also to those who voiced genuine concerns of safeguarding. I'll go back to all the parents and use a WhatsApp group to get agreement. I hope!

Dear god, I hope that's a joke!
If not perhaps you should put up a big notice to make sure everyone uses the agreed words. They won't seem weird at all.

Dollygloss Thu 12-Feb-26 10:13:09

A little chuckle. My daughter's young friend referred to pubic hair as public hair!

Sparklefizz Thu 12-Feb-26 10:13:47

Ladyleftfieldlover

We’ve always used the correct anatomical terms. Why not?

I agree. I did that with my children too.

Luckygirl3 Thu 12-Feb-26 10:16:00

It's not difficult - the whole of the external female genitalia are the vulva; the vagina is the internal passage.

This does not seem to be a much used term in spite of its accuracy. Fanny seems to be the favoured term round here. My mum called it Pamela - which was great till I met someone with that name ...

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paddyann54 Thu 12-Feb-26 10:26:05

My daughter called hers her “lady bits” and her girls said the same.When my son was born 10 years after my daughter she helped change his nappy and immediate.y told us he had a wee spare part .We all called it babies spare part for years

twinnytwin Thu 12-Feb-26 10:36:21

Front bottom. Simples.

Fallingstar Thu 12-Feb-26 10:41:17

When I was little I would call it my wee wee.
Am not sure I want to divulge what my GCs call it, am pretty sure their parents would be mortified.

Esmay Thu 12-Feb-26 10:41:29

Er a bit delicate...but foo or foo foo all said very cheekily .
We used to say fanny , but that's Anerican for backside .
Lady bits is another.
If older with pubic hair then lady garden .
And also vag !
I don't think little girls want to say vagina and vulva.
For guys - winky when small and ding a ling when older .
My mother was very easily embarrassed by the proper anatomical names.
My kids always used to laugh about things .
Pet names and alternative names for objects have always been the norm in my family .
We also love to play on words .

flappergirl Thu 12-Feb-26 10:45:56

eddiecat78

I'm really not narrow minded or embarrassed but , to me, it is very odd that a grandparent feels they need to know in such detail what to call these parts. What sort of discussions are you anticipating having with these young children?!

A lot of grandparents do daily childcare these days and a granddaughter might be sore in that area or may have hurt herself. She might also need to discuss safeguarding issues. Personally, for young kids of both sexes, I would use "private parts".

butterandjam Thu 12-Feb-26 11:06:59

M0nica

Surely we are talking defaecation not sexual parts. In which case, you talk about the bladder.

I too, am of the call spade a spade brigade, bladder, vagina, anus, generically called 'bottom'

Defaecation refers to faeces, eliminated from the anus.

The bladder only contains urine, hence urination.

TheSunRisesInTheEast Thu 12-Feb-26 11:07:04

Willy and Mary.

Ilovedogs22 Thu 12-Feb-26 11:12:29

I call my lower- front ..err, hum. Lady bit my Noo-noo & strangely, in a very old-fashioned way, I call my breasts...Busoms!
Which sounds quite Matronly in comparison. 😶

Ilovedogs22 Thu 12-Feb-26 11:18:46

Dollygloss

A little chuckle. My daughter's young friend referred to pubic hair as public hair!

Brilliant! Thanks for making me chuckle, Dollygloss. It certainty is public hair on the Brighton nudist beach though! 😊

theworriedwell Thu 12-Feb-26 11:27:32

eddiecat78

I'm really not narrow minded or embarrassed but , to me, it is very odd that a grandparent feels they need to know in such detail what to call these parts. What sort of discussions are you anticipating having with these young children?!

Exactly what I was thinking. I've got eight GC, have done and still do lots of childcare and I can't think of an occasion when I've needed to think about this.