Granmarderby10
It is important that a child you have responsibility for at any one time and for however long a period should be able to report if someone touched them in their private parts or in any way inappropriately.
So there is a very valid reason for both the carer/parent,grandparent and child in question to be “on the same page” and I think that it is utterly naive of those adults who have questioned the necessity of a mutually agreed term/name that will be immediately understood by both the responsible adult and the child.
This also ensures all concerned don’t waste their energy on their own embarrassment but instead deal with the issue.
I absolutely second this Granmaderby. I used to be involved, alongside the Police, in investigative interviewing (video interviews) of children who had disclosed sexual abuse. The initial part of the interview always involved an element of establishing the names children used to refer to different parts of their body. These were many and varied and often quite imaginative, but it was essential to make sure that what they were telling us was clearly understood by all as it might later be used as evidence in court.
Children need to be able to tell those looking after them clearly if someone has hurt them, and without any embarrassment on either side. I find it interesting that little boys are quite open in talking about their penises, willies or whatever they like to call them - sometimes too open - whilst little girls are usually more reticent, and certainly not encouraged to do so. Maybe it says something about women’s attitudes to our own bodies and maybe we owe it to little girls to be more open minded ourselves.
