Errrr … a little tricky to word … what’s a little girl’s equivalent to a 'willy'?

It is important that a child you have responsibility for at any one time and for however long a period should be able to report if someone touched them in their private parts or in any way inappropriately.

So there is a very valid reason for both the carer/parent,grandparent and child in question to be “on the same page” and I think that it is utterly naive of those adults who have questioned the necessity of a mutually agreed term/name that will be immediately understood by both the responsible adult and the child.
This also ensures all concerned don’t waste their energy on their own embarrassment but instead deal with the issue.

Granmarderby10

It is important that a child you have responsibility for at any one time and for however long a period should be able to report if someone touched them in their private parts or in any way inappropriately.

So there is a very valid reason for both the carer/parent,grandparent and child in question to be “on the same page” and I think that it is utterly naive of those adults who have questioned the necessity of a mutually agreed term/name that will be immediately understood by both the responsible adult and the child.
This also ensures all concerned don’t waste their energy on their own embarrassment but instead deal with the issue.

Do they need words, pointing would do or saying they were touched under their pants.

I used to work for the police, seen many statements from abused children and even without an agreed word they can certainly communicate what has happened.

My mum had a really cute name for it. ‘Kukuchee’ - I don’t know why - I don’t know whether that was commonly used, or whether it was my mum’s special word for me. When I used to have a shower, , she would say ‘don’t forget to wash your ‘kukuchee’ 😂

GrannieWalker -
Your post wasn't offensive to me .

When do we need to talk about our bits ?Well actually we do sometimes :

One of daughters caught thrush from using a house guest's towel and one occasion my other daughter needed to explain that she'd hurt herself. Shed been thrown forward onto the pommel of a saddle and was in a great deal of pain . She had slightly torn herself. It was okay.

I don't think that it matters what we call our bits. Sooner or later we learn the proper names. In my family we persisted with the baby names in our tongue in cheek way .
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I don't think that there was anything smutty or sinister in GrannieWalker's post.

I see that Gransnet have removed mine and Sago’s posts as troll hunting.

Then in a general sense I will say do not post stories of your grandchildren referring to the subject of this post.

The vocabulary will have alerted the feeds of those who are interested in such details for their titillation even if the OP is genuine.

I think Gransnet has made a very poor decision here and I will be reporting myself as the only way I can think of to ask them to consider their safeguards.

Oh, get real - this is just the kind of discussion that Mumsnet would have great interest in. Gransnet is has plenty of posts referring to body parts including intimate ones on the health threads and - gasp - sometimes we even mention sex!

I agree with the mods and maybe it's best dropped - instead of continuing to haunt and criticise the O/P.

When I was little I used to say I had a sore bottom (ie “ front bottom” ). Sometimes, with a giggle we would talk about a “wee wee hole.”.
I never needed to talk about this area with my granddaughter and I don’t remember any special words used with my daughter at a young age, apart from “ bottom”. A bit older and the correct anatomical words were used.

Lathyrus3

I see that Gransnet have removed mine and Sago’s posts as troll hunting.

Then in a general sense I will say do not post stories of your grandchildren referring to the subject of this post.

The vocabulary will have alerted the feeds of those who are interested in such details for their titillation even if the OP is genuine.

I think Gransnet has made a very poor decision here and I will be reporting myself as the only way I can think of to ask them to consider their safeguards.

Thank you Lathyrus3 I’m proud to be troll hunter!

I never fail to be surprised by this forum.

My rule is would I ask this question in RL?
If the answer is no then stop!

It’s the personal stories about grandchildren that are distressing me Wyllow, because I know what use will be made of them.

That’s not a comment about the OP but about the open nature of Gransnet where posts are available for anyone to view.

Cannot think of a time when i have needed to use a word. They would soon of told me if they needed to as we were always very open with them..

Leelaylo

I always encouraged my daughter to call it her vagina but for some unknown reason she always referred to it as her Fu Fu

Leelaylo here in my area FuFu is used too. Also Flower and FanFan! When they pass into school, vagina is the preferred description.

Belardo - but surely you would be very concerned if she had actually hurt her "vagina"...
That would be odd - as well as serious.

We've 4 daughters and 7 granddaughters, only one grandson. Never needed any special words apart from generic 'your bits'.

Undercarriage!
Sorry that's probably terribly vulgar🤣🤣🤣

We've many GGC as well, I can't think of a time I was needed to name bits.

I don't have these parts that you are referring to. They simply don't exist. I'm with Queen Victoria on this matter.

How many children did Queen Victoria have? I think she had such parts.

I agree there was no word for this part of me, when I was a child. I was born in 1951, and the only expression that comes to my mind is "Tween legs" my way of repeating Mummy's expression "between your legs"

Both my parents would have disapproved of all and every one of the expressions suggested on this site. I was firmly told there was no need to talk about the body parts that were covered by clothing. And I have a firm impression that all the girls I played with, my girl cousin, and later my class-mates had been brought up in the same way.

I cannot for the life of me remember what my boy cousins called their penis - certainly not willy, as nearly every third boy in Scotland at that time seemed to be Willie. As both their mother and our mutual grandmother were French teachers they may have referred to "their thing".

Just call it "your wee-wee" and have done with it. After all we all automatically ask a small child who is holding him- or herself between their legs if they need to do a wee-wee, don't we?

Queen Victoria may well have had those parts but would have no term of reference for them. Neither have I!

yogitree

Leelaylo

I always encouraged my daughter to call it her vagina but for some unknown reason she always referred to it as her Fu Fu

Leelaylo here in my area FuFu is used too. Also Flower and FanFan! When they pass into school, vagina is the preferred description.

But surely ‘vagina’ is incorrect, even though many adults use it to refer to the vulva?
I have no daughters, so never had to tell them what it was called, and I have no idea what my granddaughters called it. My sons had penises, but when they were a bit older they might giggle when calling it their willy!
Working in early years, there were a lot of willies, and I think I remember a ‘girlie’ and a ‘toot’!
As a child, I don’t think I ever spoke about that area to my mother, but think I would just have used ‘bottom’.

M0nica

Surely we are talking defaecation not sexual parts. In which case, you talk about the bladder.

I too, am of the call spade a spade brigade, bladder, vagina, anus, generically called 'bottom'

Why on earth would you refer to the bladder if taking about defaecation?

As a child, I never spoke to my mother about that area of my body because at a very young age I had picked up from her attitude that it shouldnt be mentioned. However, that meant that I didnt tell her when I had genuine problems in that region.
Too much prudishness can be harmful!

When my girls were little it was always called a Minnie, but my friend called it her Mrs willowby which always made me smile but I’m not sure why.

I shall rename mine Fu Fu. Love it.

My mum was very open and healthy about bodies, ie nothing to ever be ashamed of, but I can't recall any 'naming' ever going on.
It actually might be my dad's influence - he was incredibly Victorian of all matters sexual and even naked and would not have approved.
I can remember being blasted with short lived anger when he hadn't locked the toilet door - all I saw was the back of his bum!