Dilemma

You are entirely justified in asking for it back after all this time.

You are right in that it's unusual - but we don't know the background and the daughter may have talked about it with him.

I think someone is playing with their new toy.

It seems a bit fishy to me. I would insist on having the ring back. It's not his to keep.

I think you should ask for the ring back and mention the proposal being as six months has gone by! Akinnear44

Definitely get that ring back. If they break up and he goes off somewhere or other then you might never see it again. After getting it back tell him then and not before that you've decided to keep it yourself as it' means a lot to you.

Get it back.
Bizarre situation. What cant he buy her an engagement ring if thats what they both want.
He had absolutely no right to ask for your mother's ring.
Outrageous cheek.

Gosh am I the only one who thinks it is no longer with him? oh I do hope you get it back

Sorry, I would ask for it back.....No dilemma

Oh gosh I hope he still has it. 100% you need to get the ring back no matter what.

Oh heck, we need a happy ending here, please let us know what happens. I’m sure all gransnetters are behind you. 🌷

What's your gut feeling about your DD's partner? It's probably right. Ask him if he still has the ring and when he's intending to propose. If it's a waffly answer I'd ask for the ring to be returned. If he can't or won't then it's time to alert your DD

What is puzzling is that, if they live together (OP describes him as her DD's partner) where has he kept this ring for all these months without her noticing?

We need to know the outcome, akinnear44!

gransruleok

Oh heck, we need a happy ending here, please let us know what happens. I’m sure all gransnetters are behind you. 🌷

Oh heck, we need a happy ending here...

Yes we do. The OP has returned to the thread to say she's going to ask him to return the ring - I think though that many of us want to know that it's back safely with her, it's not just any old ring, it's one that belonged to her mother for goodness sake - I'm upset for her.

Oh goodness. I hope you’ve got the ring back by now. You must be more than worried.

This has made me think, I’d not want to part with my Mum's engagement ring. It means too much to me. Perhaps if a daughter asked me herself, not otherwise.

Think I'd just say he has either changed his mind about the proposal or your DD hasn't accepted at this stage so best you have it back.

Charleygirl5

He's flogged it.
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JenniRen

She is her mother!
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I would definitely ask for it to be returned, saying that is of sentimental importance to you and you regret not being able to see it.

You were really kind and generous to allow your daughter's boyfriend to have the ring. I can see you very much wanted to help them both. However, as he has let you down and not yet proposed, you should tell your daughter about the ring, and persuade her to ask him to give it back.

He might have sold it. Hopefully he hasn't. But if he has, it would be best that she knows sooner rather than later, what kind of person he is.

I would definitely ask for it back and ask how the proposal was going. If I didn't get it back I would tell my daughter.....how dare he. The cheek of it. If he has pawned it, or comes out with an excuse I would make sure it backfired on him and I would want my daughter to know and deep down I wouldn't want her to marry a man like him. If he's honourable and just waiting for the right time ask him for a deadline and if he hasn't asked by then or she says "No", then you want the ring back immediately.

He’s sold it to pay for his gambling/drug habit?

Please come back and tell us how things are going
akinnear44

I reckon he has sold it. Either that or he is a cheapskate who won't go and buy one to give himself.

I would never have handed it over,that smacks of him being too nean to actually buy her one himself,also seems dodgy he has not proposed yet.So yes,get it back.And if hes full of excuses time to tell your daughter.