Dilemma

Barbadosbelle

JenniRen

She is her mother!
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Where have I said anything different?

Sounds a bit dubious to me. I’d want it back.
I used one of my dress rings when I got engaged, then he bought me a beautiful engagement ring when I was pregnant with my first child.

I wouldnt ask for the ring. I would tell him firmly that as he hasnt proposed so far you want the ring back tomorrow, without fail. If he waffles and makes excuses, then I would say that if he doesnt produce the ring as requested, then that means he has stolen the ring from you and you will inform the police , and tell your daughter how long he has had the ring too. It is not pleasant having to tell someone that the person they thought was so marvellous is not to be trusted, and of course she may well decide that this alters things, and she doesnt want to marry him.

Although she will be upset by what you have to say, if you didnt tell her, then in the future she found out, that could affect your own relationship too. Be honest with her as you have always been and if that shows her that this man is not to be trusted she will thank you in the future. Whatever he does now you are very unlikely to trust him ever again.

If you do go down that route be ready for her not to want to listen.
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I wouldn't have heard a bad thing said against my now husband and just accepted it as truth...
I would have fought hard for him and I'm in no doubt that it would bring us closer!
It would be like saying "no, you can't go out" to a teenager.

I still think there may be an innocent reason.

Thanks for all your comments and advice. I have asked for the ring to be returned which DD partner immediately agreed to which is good. He says he has been waiting for the right time to propose. Still haven’t actually got the ring but I’m confident I will get it back. Thanks again everyone

Thanks for popping back.
I was hoping and expecting it to be all OK.
I hope so.
There are more honest people in the world than dishonest.

All's well that ends well akinnear .
Well done for asking. It may speed things up.
I was at a marriage ceremony on Saturday for a couple who've been together for 30 years. Their DC were bridesmaids and usher. He joked that he had to find the right time to propose. 😲

Hope you got it back Rocketstop2 and I do hope he hasn’t sold it ! He sounds dodgy to me, hope DD is sensible and is going into their relationship with her eyes wide open !

Grammaretto

All's well that ends well akinnear .
Well done for asking. It may speed things up.
I was at a marriage ceremony on Saturday for a couple who've been together for 30 years. Their DC were bridesmaids and usher. He joked that he had to find the right time to propose. 😲

Well it has ended yet he hasn’t given it back he might just be buttering her up
I think you’re talking to the wrong person Nanna8 it’s Akinnear44🤣

He says he has been waiting for the right time to propose

6 months though?

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Hope the ring gets returned quicker than the ‘proposal’.

If he does propose the ring isn’t going back - assuming dd accepts. It all seems very rum to me.

How do you know Avalon

It hasn’t ended well though has it? You haven’t got the ring back. (Yet)

I think the general consensus is sensible!

I do hope he actually returns it.
I do think you need to establish a date .... "I need it back by Friday."

I agree Tworedroses It hasn't ended, until you actually get the ring back. You have no proof that he intends to use it to propose or even that he still has it.

The sad truth is that, unless it is placed on your DD's finger, he has in fact obtained it under false pretences and ultimately it could become a police matter.

NotSpaghetti

How do you know Avalon

If he proposes and dd accepts she will have the ring. It will, therefore not go back to mum.

Don't let him forget to return the ring. Why hasn't he mentioned it before? You know him better than we do but I'm still not convinced you'll see that ring again.

MollyNew

Don't let him forget to return the ring. Why hasn't he mentioned it before? You know him better than we do but I'm still not convinced you'll see that ring again.

I have my doubts too, but hopeful it all turns out well.

Please get it back and come and tell us when it's in or on your hand !!!