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Shelflife Tue 21-Dec-21 23:47:48

My son is getting married in March. I am of course giving thought to my outfit. However I have not been keen to go shopping during the pandemic! Lockdown is probably round the corner now so shops will be closed. I am in my 70s and have taken great care during this difficult time. My daughter married 7 years ago and I bought a lovely outfit , felt a million dollars on the big day. I am tempted to wear it again , it does still fit although a few pounds off might be a good idea! Should I wear it again or is that inappropriate? My DH thinks it is an ok thing to do and I considering doing that? I would appreciate your thoughts please.

Doodledog Tue 21-Dec-21 23:54:45

I don't see why not.

Who knows whether we will be able to do much shopping before March, and anyway, if the dress fits and you feel good in it, I can see no reason why you shouldn't wear it.

If your son is anything like mine he won't remember what you wore to his sister's wedding, and if he did remember he wouldn't care if I wore it to his smile.

I hope you have a lovely day. My son is getting married in May, and I am also having outfit worries, so I know how you feel.

VioletSky Wed 22-Dec-21 00:07:36

I understand how it might feel a bit wrong to wear the same outfit but genuinely don't think people would notice.

Could you change part of it?

Put a different cardi or jacket over it?

Different accessories or shoes?

Different hair?

Might that feel a bit better?

It's always good to get your monies worth!

Shelflife Wed 22-Dec-21 00:11:04

Thank you Doodledog. You are probably correct , he won't remember what I wore at his sister's wedding! Nor would he care if he did remember. I have more or less made my mind up , just wanted to test the water and see what others thought. You too have a lovely day in May , good luck with the hunt for an outfit.

Lauren59 Wed 22-Dec-21 04:51:27

Oh, please wear it again! Seven years is along time, nobody will remember and if they do, so what? If you already own a dress that is nice then wear it again! Even the royals do it.

Lauren59 Wed 22-Dec-21 04:53:01

I might add, my son was married last summer and daughter will be married next summer. I plan to wear the same nice dress to both

tanith Wed 22-Dec-21 07:20:08

Absolutely agree, wear the dress you know suits you and you’ll be comfortable in, no one will remember or care you’ve worn it before.

Nannarose Wed 22-Dec-21 07:22:59

I certainly don't buy / make a completely new outfit. I think if it is a lovely outfit, then wear again.
I tend to do as VioletSky has suggested - because I love fabric and I love playing around with different things.
Without criticising anyone else's taste or decisions, I personally make things out of good fabric, to last many years, and still wear good clothes that are 20-25 years old.

Ashcombe Wed 22-Dec-21 07:39:09

I would say go ahead and wear it! I bought a beautiful Oriental looking outfit from Monsoon for DD1's wedding in 2003 which still fitted me in 2015, when I remarried to DH olddudders so I wore it then! Only one guest recognised it and was envious as she could no longer fit into the outfit she’d had for my DD1's wedding.

It’s also kinder to the planet if we reuse things. I hope you have a wonderful day when it comes round. ?

mumofmadboys Wed 22-Dec-21 07:44:15

Yes, definitely wear it! You look good in it and recycling is what we are all aiming for.

JackyB Wed 22-Dec-21 08:26:59

For the sake of the photos maybe you should wear something different. However, as Violetsky suggests, wear the same outfit but vary it with different accessories. Maybe a hat or fascinator to distract from the dress (or suit or whatever the outfit consists of)

Kim19 Wed 22-Dec-21 08:36:31

I think it's a wonderful idea to wear it again. What's wrong with feeling like a million dollars twice?! Why not run it past your daughter of you have the slightest reservation? I suspect your son won't even notice. Further well done on it still fitting you. All sounds amazing to me. Enjoy.

Oldnproud Wed 22-Dec-21 08:39:19

Another vote here for wearing the same outfit again.

Calendargirl Wed 22-Dec-21 08:44:11

Oh, blow the photos!

My DD married in late 2001, my DS in Spring 2003. I wore exactly the same outfit for both. Didn’t change a thing,

Shouldn’t think anyone else noticed or cared.

Pointless for me to have two wedding outfits, not much opportunity to wear such things, it was a linen type shift dress with matching coat, and appropriate hat and shoes,

Jackiest Wed 22-Dec-21 08:44:50

It is you who is important not what clothes you are wearing. You liked it so wear it again.

silverlining48 Wed 22-Dec-21 08:52:49

Of course wear it again and have a lovely day.

Grandmabatty Wed 22-Dec-21 08:54:56

Definitely wear it again. It made you feel good the first time so will make you feel good again. And you are re-using so saving the environment too!

Shropshirelass Wed 22-Dec-21 09:05:04

It will be fine to wear it again, you could just team with different accessories to change the look slightly of you like. No one will mind or even notice that you have worn it before. Have a lovely day.

Yammy Wed 22-Dec-21 09:07:40

Wear it again,I did for two weddings pre Covid change your shoes or fascinator if you want to look different. wink

Shelflife Wed 22-Dec-21 09:51:44

Thank you lovely ladies, you have made me feel much easier. I will wear it again. It is a long skirt , top and a lovely tailored jacket with a stand off collar. In a beautiful bluebell colour. Of course I still have the hat , bag and shoes, so will use them all again. It is foolish to be trailing round shops - if open ! and having to think about what fits, suits me and then have to search for hat, bag etc. and of course grooms mother outfits are expensive! I am a happy bunny now . ?

Baggs Wed 22-Dec-21 10:08:45

Even the Duchess of Cambridge re-wears outfits. It's The Thing To Do nowadays. Gofrit, shelflife ?

Galaxy Wed 22-Dec-21 10:12:27

My mother in law bought a lovely outfit for my wedding, she wore it again frequently at special occasions. It always made me smile when she wore it as it just suited her perfectly and she looked lovely. I actually think it's quite rare to find an outfit you love. Have a lovely time.

Coastpath Wed 22-Dec-21 10:25:46

It's a lovely idea to wear it again. To me it would feel like all the love and joy of your daughter's wedding was coming with your beautiful outfit to be sprinkled around on the day of your son's wedding.

Shelflife Wed 22-Dec-21 12:33:19

Thankyou coastpath. I agree with you Galaxy it is indeed rare to find an outfit that is a good fit and makes you feel good. It is a difficult task. Thank you all , is’nt GN amazing! I have been getting wound up about this and that is unusual for me . This pandemic has a lot to answer for , keep safe and well everyone.

Ali08 Wed 22-Dec-21 13:20:33

Well you know, if it's good enough for Kate Middleton to do, I'm sure it's good enough for you!
You know it fits, you know it's comfortable and you look good in it! You can wear different jewellery or buy a new bag and/or shoes, maybe a pretty wrap or cardi.
Your choice!!