Clare's law

Respect her wishes

I know as parents we only want the best for our children whatever age they are, but it's easy to overstep the mark with adult children. I can understand that you only wanted to help your daughter, but this has caused problems for her. You should step back and let her dictate what happens in her relationship. I would apologise profusely and promise not to interfere again without her permission. You will need to convince her of this because she may be feeling a loss of trust. She needs you to be there for her, to support her and give your advice when asked, but never to take control which is what you did. Always suggest things to her first rather than going full steam ahead without permission.

Do you understand about Right to Ask and Right to Know?

assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/6489ab97103ca6000c039ea0/Domestic_Violence_Disclosure_Scheme.pdf

I suggest you read it very carefully.

You have instigated Right to Ask and reported a physical incident which resulted in your daughter going to hospital.

See page 9 point 24 of the document:

If at any stage during the initial contact the police believe that A (that would be your DD) or C (that’s you) is alleging a crime (e.g. a specific incidence of a violent or abusive act) rather than asking for information about the previous violent or abusive offending of B, then the police must pursue the crime report under normal criminal investigation procedures.

It sounds like the police have recorded that as potential common assault or even ABH (actual bodily harm).

See point 36.

During the initial contact stage …

initial checks will be completed as soon as possible and, in any case, within 24 hours to assess whether there is an immediate or imminent risk of harm to A from B (the husband).

The police are doing what they are supposed to do.

But see page 15 point 52 (d) Preliminaries.

... assure A or C that the application will be dealt with confidentially. There should however be a caveat placed on this that confidentiality can only be guarantee pending the outcome of the process. It should be explained that in the event of a concern arising about B, the police must consider whether representations should be sought from B. Moreover, if a resultant disclosure is to be made to A or C, the police must consider whether B should be informed that a disclosure has been made to A or C. This should not be done, however, without first assessing the full risk to A, and any relevant children, if B were to be contacted , informing A or C of the need to involve B and giving them the opportunity to withdraw the application before B is informed.

Therefore you have an opportunity to withdraw the application.