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akinnear44 Sat 17-Oct-26 20:51:35

Can I ask what would you do in my situation? Partner of DD told us he would like to propose to DD and asked if he could use my late mother's engagement ring which I inherited. I agreed and gave him the ring. This was back in late April and he hasn't proposed and we don't think it's going to happen any time soon and he hasn't mentioned it to us again. It is really beginning to annoy and upset me that he now has the ring. What should I do? Leave it alone or ask for the ring back? Any advice and thoughts would be very welcome.

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Shinamae Sat 17-Oct-26 20:55:22

I would definitely ask for the ring back..

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Cossy Sat 17-Oct-26 20:57:01

I’d be inclined just to mention it very discretely and casually, if you can get him alone, and ask him if he’s chosen a date to propose and if he umms and arrrs I’d be inclined to ask if he’d like you to take care of the ring til he’s “ready”.

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Greenfinch Sat 17-Oct-26 20:58:31

I would ask him how the proposal went.

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Shel1951 Sat 17-Oct-26 21:00:24

Get the ring back.

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Calendargirl Sat 17-Oct-26 21:04:18

Trying to picture our SIL asking to use my mother’s engagement ring to propose to our daughter?

Bit different if it had been his family’s ring.

How odd!

And no, I wouldn’t have given him it.

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Charleygirl5 Sat 17-Oct-26 21:11:02

If he ever got round to proposing, would your daughter think it was her ring? Very odd.

I would definitely ask for it back. I wonder if he still has it?

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Fallingstar Sat 17-Oct-26 21:35:27

Ask for the ring back, say that seeing as the proposal hasn’t happened you would like to hold onto such a precious heirloom, and that actually you would prefer to keep the ring which will be passed onto your DD by yourself, so he should in this case buy his own engagement ring for her.

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rafichagran Sat 17-Oct-26 21:42:31

Ask for the ring back. Unless it is used for its intended purpose it does not belong to him.
He had no right to keep it.

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