We are staying at my DS's house for a couple of days in order to attend his mother-in-laws funeral tomorrow. I have been rather apprehensive about being with our two GSs nearly 6 and 4 as I wanted to make sure DH and I didn't say anything to upset them about their Grandma, who they were close to.
Well over supper they brought up the subject of tomorrow's funeral which they are attending. The little one said Grandma was very old (70) and I'll that is why she died. The older grandson said she was ill but not old. Then they said, do you think she is now a ghost and watching us. I said she will be keeping an eye on you as she loved you a lot, which fortunately stopped the talk of ghosts. The eldest said you know Grandpa could get himself a new wife now .
The children seemed so matter of fact, not at all upset, but did comment that mummy had been very sad. So they obviously are aware of the sadness their mum feels.
I told them we were having a buffet at the Wake which pleased them immensely.
So please keep your fingers crossed that they remain as calm and collected at the funeral itself. I know I will be very tearful.
Kate Garroway-Care at home costs
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