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Bereavement

My daughter's partner

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AlieOxon Wed 19-Jul-17 11:35:54

Some of you will know I lost my daughter Jayne suddenly two years ago, and also that her partner K has been struggling to cope ever since.

This morning I have had the police at my door to tell me Kieron has been found dead. In a field in Marston Ferry, Oxford.
I've been in contact with the police but haven't yet learned any more.
I did know he was feeling suicidal. so this is not entirely unexpected, but it is still a great shock.
I'm waiting for my sister to come from near Chepstow.

AlieOxon Sun 23-Jul-17 09:03:47

Well, as of now we are supposed to be meeting in Oxford this afternoon.

The 16-year-old, who I called KN before, only learned about Kieron on Friday and I have no idea how he will feel...
he lived with him and would have been his stepson if Jayne and Kieron had married. They used to be quite close.

A little worried. And it will probably rain!

kittylester Sun 23-Jul-17 07:15:38

Thinking of you today, Alie - hope it 'happens' and is helpful for you. flowers

KatyK Sat 22-Jul-17 13:23:17

So dreadful flowers

AlieOxon Sat 22-Jul-17 10:07:53

At the moment I'm just hoping Sunday is going to happen!

Thing is when my daughter died, I thought I was next of kin, but it turned out her sons were. I even had those 'heir hunter' people round thinking I was, until I told them about 5 grandsons. And Kieron has a grown daughter by a previous partner.

suzied Sat 22-Jul-17 08:34:43

Is he the father of one of the children? He'd be the next of kin then, but I'm guessing not. It's all a horrible tragedy and I hope you at least manage a smile with the children and they give you some hope for the future??

kittylester Sat 22-Jul-17 07:50:47

Just sending you love Alie and the hope that you get answers soon. Have a lovely day tomorrow!

AlieOxon Sat 22-Jul-17 07:22:45

Thanks - it wasn't the best birthday, but at least it's over. I did sleep, if not quite long enough.

Blood toxicology results may not be available until Friday.
I'm supposed to give a statement to the police on Tuesday when the one I spoke to is back...

We are possibly having a family meeting on Wednesday and complications are beginning to creep in, as nobody seems sure who is Kieron's next of kin.

Still feeling rather numb.

cornergran Fri 21-Jul-17 18:58:21

Sunday will soon be here, alie, sending love on your birthday and wishing you as peaceful a night as possible.

AlieOxon Fri 21-Jul-17 16:37:26

I am trying...not easy. But thanks everyone

kittylester Fri 21-Jul-17 16:12:19

Wishing you as happy a birthday as you can manage in the circumstances. Try hard to recall the happy times and look forward to Sunday!

downsized Fri 21-Jul-17 16:07:56

Utterly shocked to read this, Alie. I remember you telling us of your daughter's death and this must be yet another tragedy for your family to bear. I'm so, so sorry.

Not happy circumstances for your birthday, but I send love, (((hugs))) and best wishes for happier times to come.flowers

AlieOxon Fri 21-Jul-17 10:55:40

Yes, a bit surreal. I had a cry earlier.

But now thinking of things I can do with today.

My sister has just phoned....and when we have that picnic, we will try and include both grandsons (now 16 and 2 1/2) and auntie L who looks after the little one.

Luckygirl Fri 21-Jul-17 10:07:17

Birthday wishes to you. flowers

MiniMouse Fri 21-Jul-17 09:51:47

Birthday Greetings Alie A strange day for you, rather surreal I should imagine. Keep Sunday in your mind and keep talking to us all.

shysal Fri 21-Jul-17 09:34:42

Birthday greetings to you Alie. I know it won't be a happy one sad. Hope the grandsons are coping. How old are they?

AlieOxon Fri 21-Jul-17 09:33:38

No. Was going to go on a picnic with my sister and her partner. We will do something later on...

gillybob Fri 21-Jul-17 09:13:55

What a terrible shame. Happy Birthday Alie for what it's worth. I can't imagine you will fell like celebrating much. flowers

AlieOxon Fri 21-Jul-17 09:06:07

A bittersweet birthday for me today....

MiniMouse Thu 20-Jul-17 21:27:00

Hope it all goes ahead on Sunday Alie. A bittersweet time, but it will be lovely to see your Grandsons.

AlieOxon Thu 20-Jul-17 20:32:31

I'm so grateful for all the messages.

I've just heard that I may see both youngest grandsons on Sunday, if it can be arranged!

Lona Thu 20-Jul-17 19:09:54

Alie flowers I am so sorry that you have more sadness to bear.

AlieOxon Thu 20-Jul-17 18:15:31

Kieron was looking after two of my grandsons after my daughter died. Sadly he wasn't able to cope, and the 14-year-old went to an older brother, the baby to an auntie.
Both still there now.
They do see each other, but not enough. And I don't see either of them enough.

bikergran Thu 20-Jul-17 13:11:08

How tragic for you on top of everything else..

Grannyknot Thu 20-Jul-17 12:35:21

Alie so sorry to read of this tragedy. If I remember correctly, he was looking after your grandchildren? I can only send condolences, and wish you strength. flowers

Riverwalk Thu 20-Jul-17 10:02:19

Alie I'm so sorry to hear this sad news. flowers