My beloved child

Aww Gilly, I know you have a bit of a problem with him but he doesn't with you ?

When my son in law asked me to choose he said - and don't even think of Myfanwy !

Crafting, it is the support here which has got me through this week and by strengthening me have also helped my grandchildren and son in law , I would not have had the strength to support them . I have always believed a kind word is like ripples from a pebble thrown into a pool

Lovely choices annie

I was listening to Welsh choirs singing on Saturday night and a youth choir sang Calon Lân - I thought of you and shed a tear.

Just catching up today Annie, good to hear your sense of humour is still there despite your sadness. I love your choice of reading and hymns. They will stay with you in the days that follow, you may find yourself singing in your kitchen (I did after my parents' funerals)
As for the Bridge, be gentle with yourself Annie. sending love

Dear Annie sorry to hear about the bridge crossing before you get into your local town, I do hope there is a way you can overcome that obstacle if only we could help you in some practical way. Geographically, I hope your grandchildren and son in law are fairly close by as I'm sure they will need you as much as you need them.

I'm sure the mass/service will be a fitting tribute to your lovely daughter. x

Terri, the bridge , I hope in time I can face it but not yet , all I can think is she stood there alone and then went into the river and I just wish she had phoned me but she didn't and I don't know why and I never will

Sorry

anniebach we've never spoken, but may I offer my sincere condolences in the loss of your only child.

Having only one child myself, I can only imagine the horrific pain you're feeling...

may your daughter Rest in peace, and may you come through this with the help of all your family and friends.

Anniebach Calon Lan is a perfect choice for your daughter. Byddai hi'n cyd-fynd â hynny. X

I love your choices Annie it sounds as though it will be an extraordinarily beautiful Service.

Annie Love your hymn choices, should be familiar to everyone, which is so important, and will sound wonderful with those lovely Welsh voices.

Annie your choice of hymns is lovely - I had Morning has Broken for my mum - it was like the awakening after the very long dark night she always hated. The service is going to be a beautiful tribute to your daughter. It's sad you don't have the company of your little westie right now - pets are such a comfort and we are able to tell them many things we don't say to humans but even though Lottie is asleep she's still there with you silently supporting you.

Annie those sound perfect choices and a fitting tribute to your daughter. I’ve always loved the tune of Calon Lan but not being a Welsh speaker I had no idea the words were so moving too. Thank you for sharing it with us all. x

The cathedral will be filled with both love and music.
You have done well Annie
I pray that you will have a more peaceful night.
God bless xxx

Annie, lovely choices made by you for your beloved daughter. You are being so strong. Night, night, God bless, sleep tight.

Beautiful hymn and music choices for your beautiful daughter annie. The hymns will be sung with gusto for her. I’m so sorry the bridge is your route to your village, perhaps be kind to yourself at the moment, make a decision not to try just yet, but if crossing remains impossible please speak with your doctor, there will be help for you. I also wish you a peaceful night with restful sleep. Sending love.

Annie, there are no words. I've just read the posts. As a bereaved mother too, I want to send you love.

"I have always believed a kind word is like ripples from a pebble thrown into a pool."

Me too Annie and I am glad you feel the love and support going your way at such a very sad time.

I love your hymn choices and I am sure the Cathedral service will be a magnificent and moving tribute to your dear daughter. How nice that so many people, including priests, want to be there and assist at her funeral. She has left her mark, hasn't she?

Those are beautiful choices for your daughter's service, Anniebach. I have the words and melodies running through my head right now, having seen their names in your post.

My mother is Welsh and her father had a wonderful opera-quality bass voice so I understand how important music is to the Welsh nation.

Daisy, I am so sorry, I send you my love x

cornergran, I am not even going to attempt to go near the bridge , don't care if I never go into town ever again.

Can anyone recall the thread discussing reflex, I need to read it again but can't find it. This waking in the early hours every night is exhausting and gives me too much night time to think.

Thank you all for your kind comments on the hymns and music.

www.gransnet.com/forums/health/a1240110-Acid-reflux?msgid=26436604

I’ve got a new iPad (with a keyboard!) and am still feeling my way around it. Hope the link works. I know it sounds weird but I do find hot water with milk (not skimmed milk) works sometimes. Instant coffee, without the coffee!

Or a brandy and dry ginger. With a dry cream cracker. Many years ago that was the prescription from my doctor when life was kicking me in the teeth and I couldn’t sleep. A tot before bed. Whisky or brandy, my choice. The ginger helps digestion.

Only a tot mind!

Yes, ginger is good for digestion, you can buy ginger tablets usually to counteract sea-sickness.

There are several makes available and Holland and Barrett and other outlets sell them too I think.

I hope you can find something that works annie; I think sometimes it is caused by too-rich food but sometimes it happens if the stomach is empty, so a light snack before bed like crackers as NfkD suggests may help.

Thank you. It certaintly isn't too rich food unless yoghurt is too rich, this was my first addition to my weight increase diet. Empty stomach seems more likely

Could you try sitting up a bit in bed? I suck gaviscon tablets when it gets too uncomfortable; avoid fat; and eat slowly - I find that helps. Sometimes grazing can help rather than having big meals. And feeling upset can make it worse - and goodness knows you have plenty to be upset about.

I hope that this problem will settle and you will be able to get some sleep. What difficult times for you.