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Bereavement

My beloved child

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Anniebach Wed 01-Nov-17 18:45:42

My beloved daughter took her life in the early hours of this morning.

My first born, my joy, my best friend , my laughter, my tears

I am broken

Annie

Bathsheba Mon 13-Nov-17 22:09:35

Such lovely and sincere tributes pouring in for your darling girl. She was clearly very loved and very respected throughout the community. She packed so much into her short life and left a legacy that will be enjoyed by future generations. And for that her memory will live on in the hearts of so many people. You must be immensely proud of her Annie - but really, it's not surprising she was this person. She was, after all, your daughter smile.
Hope your physiotherapy will help you - exercising will give you something to focus on and will, hopefully, help you to sleep a little better.
Take care, Annie, still in my thoughts and prayers x

Anniebach Mon 13-Nov-17 22:34:27

Thank you all.

I have an alarm system They are installed in all the bungalows. Slight problem, no key holder because I upset my two, sister and niece.

Yes so many kind words for my darling girl , she did too much perhaps, she was so tired , then the depression set in then the self medication , because there was only the three of us my daughters came with me on many demo's etc, perhaps this was unwise , yet she was so caring from a young age, when my husband died she was few weeks past her seventh birthday, I learned years later she told her younger sister - we haven't a daddy now so I will be like a daddy to look after mummy and you.

cornergran Mon 13-Nov-17 22:36:24

Sleep well, annie x

Jamison Mon 13-Nov-17 23:10:50

Memories are so precious and stay in our hearts and minds,your darling girl is never more than a thought awayGod Blessxxxxx

Greenfinch Tue 14-Nov-17 06:56:21

What a lovely thing to say to her younger sister.How special she was.

baubles Tue 14-Nov-17 07:53:35

Your daughter was obviously a very respected and loved woman Annie. She has left a wonderful legacy and will live on in the memories of all of the people who have contacted you, and many more who haven’t, I’m sure.

You have been in my thoughts through all of the days and nights since you told us about her. Wishing you strength and sending caring vibes.

Auntieflo Tue 14-Nov-17 08:18:37

Annie, thinking of you today, as we all are. Sending my love

bikergran Tue 14-Nov-17 09:26:47

thinking of you Annie I'm sure there are many others thinking of you at this time.. but don't always post..but they are there quietly in the background. take care. x

cornergran Tue 14-Nov-17 09:58:45

we’re all still here, annie, sending love.

humptydumpty Tue 14-Nov-17 10:23:48

annie your daughter sounds like a wonderful person. It's so sad that she suffered in her last years as she was doing so much for other people, and for animals.

Can you find other key holders so that there is help for you if you need it?

BBbevan Tue 14-Nov-17 12:35:05

Still with you Annie

JoyBloggs Tue 14-Nov-17 12:51:01

Still very much in my thoughts, Annie, hope the dietician has some good advice on building you up.

Anniebach Tue 14-Nov-17 13:41:34

Thank you all x

Went well with dietician, I expected to be told to eat nuts ,hate them ' and all the foods which are good for me , which I may well hate. No, she suggests to drink the Ensure as much as I can but not to replace a meal with it. Start with yoghurts, cottage cheese , a jacket potato and introduce fillings little by little , and try things called cheese baby bells which will avoid a large lump of cheese. So introduce little at a time and when comfortable with it add something new.
And to drink something which I think starts with a Y from the dairy,

The NHS nutritionist had told me to eat anything and as much as possible, this was no help,

BlueBelle Tue 14-Nov-17 13:48:37

Thinking of you Annie such wonderful tributes hold them tightly to your heart they will keep you going through hard days xx

Anniebach Tue 14-Nov-17 13:52:36

Just heard,

Concerned and worried, there was only an interim death certificate, the inquest not until 6th February , why so long , did she drown, have head injuries, had she overdosed ,

BlueBelle Tue 14-Nov-17 13:57:34

I ve just reread the last page and the solution to the jou4ney Your daughter will love that I m sure she will be smiling I truely understand how you feel my mum and dad both died 5 years ago and this year is the first time I ve been able to walk passed their house
Xx

MissAdventure Tue 14-Nov-17 14:29:26

Yakult? Is that the drink recommended? Anyway, thinking of you, Annie.

baubles Tue 14-Nov-17 14:57:42

Annie I had to give evidence at the inquest into my father’s death. It was months after he died and I was given to understand that these things just take a long time, it wasn’t in the UK though.

Anniebach Tue 14-Nov-17 15:16:41

I can certaintly understand BlueBelle. Yes My daughter would find the van as transport so amusing

Yes Yakult MissAdjenture , thank you

thank you baubles , that has eased my mind

TerriBull Tue 14-Nov-17 15:31:16

Dear Annie your daughter achieved a lot of good things in her life, more than most. Hope you continue to build yourself up introducing new things into your diet, I can't imagine what it would be like to be told to eat more! Sending love and best wishes and some tasty [roast chicken] I'd like to suggest some of these cupcake but I now they probably would agree with you. Take care x

TerriBull Tue 14-Nov-17 15:32:19

Shouldn't have left a gap so i'll resend the roastchicken

Jalima1108 Tue 14-Nov-17 16:01:09

Annie I think this happens when they are not sure of the exact cause of death; they have to have a post-mortem and then there is quite a long wait before the proper death certificate is issued.
It just all adds to the stress of a distressing situation, it happened when a close relative of mine died and he was in hospital at the when he died.

Jalima1108 Tue 14-Nov-17 16:01:48

I should add, and they had to have an inquest.

Jalima1108 Tue 14-Nov-17 16:04:23

Babybel cheeses - I buy them for the DGC but also eat them myself!
Each one comes in a little zipped wax coat so they stay fresh smile

TerriBull Tue 14-Nov-17 16:32:23

typo know and meant to say wouldn't on last line

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