My beloved child

Thank you .Terri, save me putting the oven on, I assume it is free range chicken?

Jalima, the PM was on the 7th , my son in law went to collect the certificate, they entered fell in the river for cause of death and told him the inquest was delayed because there was an investigation going on.

Sorry to keep on about this but I am troubled

I’m so glad all went well with the dietician. Those little Laughing Cow triangles are good too if you fancy a change. DGC have a lot to answer for. My DH used to buy those tiny yoghurts meant for toddlers supposedly for when the DGC came, but I think he bought them for himself! Too sweet though for my taste.

Hope this isn't a stupid question ( apologies in advance) but is there a possibility your DD's death could have been as a result of an accident ? Maybe she fell unintentionally? I suppose the inquest roll cover every eventuality .

The wait for the inquest won’t delay the funeral will it? They surely have all the evidence they need and this is just a formality?

Nfk, No delay for the funeral they issued an interim certificate .

Gilly , I wonder the same, it's just not right, why did the police refer themselves to the police complaints authority , they were not on the bridge and she made her last phone call 8.55pm the night before, she phoned her cousin. I have heard a woman was crossing the bridge going to work in town and she phoned the police . It's easier to find out what goes in a Freemasons lodge

For you Annie of course x

Annie, I was feeling down as I caught up with this thread but your last post made me smile. I'm glad to see your sense of humour is intact. You must be in turmoil. Take care and have a Babybel!

Annie would it be possible to have word with a solicitor you can find one either through yellow pages or citizens advice .
You can request one that provide a fixed fee interview.

I think you need to have some questions asked on your behalf.
I know its an extra effort that you could well do without,
but it is better to have the full facts rather than fretting and wondering about things that may turn out to be straight forward.

A solicitor may also handle your daughters affairs re bills or banking or even just point you in the right direction.

Age UK may also have legal advisors

Oh Annie you have no idea how many times I have wanted to ask you that question but have held back for fear of upsetting you even more than you already are . I'm not good at putting things into words and tend to ramble. Sorry.

There are so many questions that need answering which I hope the inquest might help resolve . Not least whether the fall was a tragic accident . Did your DD ring the police asking for their help and they failed to respond? Could that be why they have referred themselves ? Could your DD have been on the bridge contemplating her life? ( I often do this beside the sea) and become dizzy or confused and fallen? You ( and your darling girls memory) deserves to know the truth . Xx

Anniebach, I'm sorry you have this concern about an inquest. I may be wrong but I am under the impression it's a statutory requirement for the police to be referred to the complaints authority when there's a death that they have been involved with, in this case by the call from a passerby. It's probably just to check that all that could have been done, was done.

So many questions annie it seem s wrong you have to wait so long for answers.
It sounds as though your DD was a well respected person and what a lovely thing for her to say to your younger daughter. She must have had a very kind heart.

I am glad you are getting proper advice for eating better. Hope it will help ease the gastric problems too. Still with you and thinking of you. Sleep tight.x

annie I think sued is right and there was automatic referral to the ipcc because a call was made to the police. I don’t think you need worry but I wonder, were you allocated a police liaison officer? If so they could answer your questions otherwise I would think the CAB or Age Cymru could help when you feel able to contact them. Please don’t worry, it is most likely to have been routine. The dietician sounds to have been very sensitive in approach, those small Babybell cheeses are easy to eat and also tasty, Yakult is a sort of drink, supposed to be good for the stomach and digestion. Wishing you a peaceful night. X

My son in law was allocated a police liaison officer, she didn't answer his questions, she asked for a tribute to be mailed to her so they could have it printed in their entries in the local paper, she said she wanted it in before the paper printed further details, we didn't, we expressed our gratitude to mountain rescue and volunteers for their attempts to safe her.

Suppose I will have to wait. No, I will phone my son in law who isn't etc wife, she is secretary to a solicitor in the town , Then take it from there

Wonderful moment today, middle grandchild who struggled with her mother leaving and her illness would only refer to my daughter by her Christian name, today in a conversation she spoke of - my Mum

That must have been wonderful for you to hear Annie x

Annie I used to volunteer as a counsellor for Cruse Bereavement Care. A fellow volunteer who was a retired policeman told us if a death requires an inquest close family can ask for copies of paperwork from police and witnesses also that they can put questions in writing to the coroner before the inquest . He said this is not widely publicised but will be given if asked. Maybe someone can help you do this. I don't know if things have altered since I was there, I left approximately 5 or 6 years ago. Hope this might help you have been in my thoughts and prayers.

It truely was wonderful , she also asked her father if she could have a particular pair of my daughters shoes, daughter took size 7, she takes size 4.

Thank you so much TwiceasNice

Annie I think approaching the solicitors secretary is a good idea.
You have so much on your shoulders, a little help through cruise bereavement care (or similar) as suggested by
Twice as nice my be helpful

God bless xx

If I am typing on the insomnia thread again in the early hours blame it on the chicken Terri sent me ?it was rather tasty

annie your resilience and humour are wonderful. I hope I don’t see you in the insomnia thread, we could both benefit from a good nights sleep. Yes, getting support from someone close to a solicitor is an excellent idea. People will help if you ask, Cruse are a good source of information as well as support. Wishing you a peaceful night.

Annie I can sympathise with your eating problems as 12 months ago almost to the date, I was struck down with what turned out, after a lot of investigations, to be severe gastritis.

Due to episodes of agonising pain, I could eat very little but my consultant told me to try to eat banana, or mashed potato as they do not irritate the stomach lining. Also toast if I could manage it. I had weeks and weeks of living more or less on bananas or mashed potato with a little gravy. I still have to avoid acidic, spicy foods and all alcohol but can eat a more normal diet now.

I hope you can manage to gradually get your appetitie back. Remember the old saying "strength goes in through the mouth"? Good luck with it.

Hoping you are not feeling too alone tonight and can turn to your faith for some comfort. Thinking of you.x

Hoping you get some sleep tonight Annie.

If it helps to know that people are thinking of you, you know beyond all doubt that you are in our thoughts constantly. When it gets tough, think of all of us standing beside you willing you through these difficult days and nights. xx

Wishing you a restful and comfortable night Annie
xxx

Inquests often get delayed for reasons that do not make sense. DS's inquest was delayed 9 months for no obvious reason. At the Inquest the Coroner told us we could ask questions and offer information during the Inquest. I think you could probably to do the same.

Annie food becomes more desirable when you feed the eyes as well as the body. Serve your food in pretty china on a nicely dressed tray. It may seem too much of an effort immediately, but give it a try when you can.

I see you can eat cheese, cheese sauce can be palatable when you need plain food that is easy to eat. It can also be made in advance, kept in the fridge and reheated as wanted.

You are in my thoughts and prayers

You are so welcome Annie. I wish I could do more to support you. Try to sleep and God Bless you X