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Bereavement

My beloved child

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Anniebach Wed 01-Nov-17 18:45:42

My beloved daughter took her life in the early hours of this morning.

My first born, my joy, my best friend , my laughter, my tears

I am broken

Annie

nanaK54 Sat 04-Nov-17 12:41:03

Dear Annie so lovely to read that your daughter left you that last message........
You are still firmly in my thoughts and prayers

soop Sat 04-Nov-17 13:50:19

Annie Your daughter's message came from the heart. Please share with us whenever doing so is of small comfort.

Jalima1108 Sat 04-Nov-17 14:10:05

Annie I am in tears after reading your post.
She knew you loved her and any difficulties you had were as a result of you loving her so much and wanting the best for her.

flowers

Anniebach Sat 04-Nov-17 14:44:28

I don't know how long she was alone on the bridge before she went into the river, this is hard to live with and why have the police referred this to the police complaints commission because they had been in contact with her earlier that morning, she was classed a vulnerable person, did they fail to help her . Why has a DCI been appointed to be liaison officer , why have they postponed the PM to next Tuesday . Why didn't she come to me , too many why's

Anniebach Sat 04-Nov-17 14:44:37

Sorry

wot Sat 04-Nov-17 14:47:50

Oh Annie, no need to say sorry to us.......we would do anything to help you......love and hugs. I know a little of what it's like because my poor mum made many attempts.

annsixty Sat 04-Nov-17 14:49:03

Get it all out Annie
I pray you will get some answers to at least some of your questions.

lemongrove Sat 04-Nov-17 14:51:24

Annie when you have depression this can happen at any time, even when others think you appear to be coping well.
We can never know another’s mind completely.
All her inner turmoil is now over and she is at peace.Never think that you could have prevented it, you did all that you possibly could.x

soop Sat 04-Nov-17 14:51:30

Annie No need to say sorry. We are all wishing to support you in any way that we can. We're here to listen.

Iam64 Sat 04-Nov-17 15:02:07

Hello Annie, thanks for posting because we're all watching this thread, holding you and sending love to you and your family xxx. Please don't apologise for posting, I just wish there was something more we could do x

Willow500 Sat 04-Nov-17 15:02:53

Annie you may never know the answer to the main questions - I don't think anyone in these circumstances ever can. The legal proceedings will be dealt with in time though. It must be so hard for you to cope with the endless thoughts you must be having but the message your daughter left clearly means she was thinking of you - I hope you find some solace in that in the coming days. There is certainly nothing to be sorry for anything on here.

baubles Sat 04-Nov-17 15:09:40

Oh anniebach you are in turmoil just now, you may never get answers to your questions but hold on to the knowledge that your daughter loved you. You are in my thoughts.

kittylester Sat 04-Nov-17 15:21:52

Keep posting, any time, any thing you want, as often as you like - we are here

You must have so many questions, I hope you eventually get some answer.

Bellanonna Sat 04-Nov-17 15:40:12

So glad you found that loving message, Annie.

Anniebach Sat 04-Nov-17 15:41:46

I phoned her support agency on Monday and Tuesday, I begged them to just tell me if her depression was very strong again so I would know what support to give her, I told them I was very fearful I would lose her, they said they couldn't tell me because of confidentiality and she was an adult, I said - yes an adult to you but she is my child.

Auntieflo Sat 04-Nov-17 15:48:10

Dearest Annie, so many have said what I would also wish to say. I think it was Grannyknot who said that you are being upheld in our web of love and prayers, just be open to them all and know we are here for you when you need us to be. Thank you for sharing your daughter's message, it must be so very precious.

merlotgran Sat 04-Nov-17 15:51:12

Hang on to the memory of that last message, annie. Many people leave this world without being able to say goodbye so despite the tragic circumstances I hope you find some comfort in knowing that your daughter loved you.

Cherrytree59 Sat 04-Nov-17 15:51:38

Yes Annie your beautiful child and always will be.
I wish you inner strength to carry you through the next few days
More than anything I hope you have someone to hold your hand and help you through this dark time.
xxxx

cornergran Sat 04-Nov-17 15:54:50

Oh annie. So hard. Your daughters message to you brought a tear. Please never apologise for sharing with us. I so hope there are people near you offering loving, practical support. We’re all here for you, never worry about posting. Sending love.

Luckygirl Sat 04-Nov-17 16:01:45

No apologies - post as and when you need. We are all thinking of you. Your beloved DD was ill, but wanted to tell you she loved you even in the midst of her turmoil. So many questions will be rolling around in your head, but you can hang on to the knowledge that you both loved each other. x

BlueBelle Sat 04-Nov-17 16:17:56

She loved you, her mum, and wanted you to know that in her message Take a photo of that message and have it with you always
Sometimes there are no answers Anniebach although you ll always be seeking them
I feel lost for words I m in tears at your sadness
I can only hope you have love around you to help you xx

Christinefrance Sat 04-Nov-17 16:23:51

I can't add anything to BlueBelle's message, I hope you find peace of mind, you did all you could to help her. X x

Anniebach Sat 04-Nov-17 16:41:03

I have said enough , let me now share this with you

My daughter was, when well, a town councillor. I have just received a visit from some she worked with and a letter from the council.

They extended their condolences then this

She was a caring, kind and loving woman and we will always remember her and her sparkling eyes and her lovely, wicked smile

smile

Bellanonna Sat 04-Nov-17 16:54:57

Really touched by that. Bit tearful. Thank you so much for sharing it with us all.

Swanny Sat 04-Nov-17 16:58:47

Annie I too have tears in my eyes as I read her message for you and the beautiful words of her former colleagues. You can be justly proud of her and her achievements in spite of her difficulties xx flowers

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