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Should I go ?

(28 Posts)
icbn2802 Fri 12-Jan-18 07:29:11

My best mate lost her brother this week. I knew him as a child; same age as me. But to be honest probably wouldn't have known him from Adam if I passed him in the street. My quandary is, do I go to the funeral ? I don't want to be a hypocrite but neither do I want to appear insensitive? Do I just send a card & flowers (if accepted)
Such a difficult and very sensitive time but I don't want to get it wrong.
Any suggestions......?

Eloethan Fri 12-Jan-18 11:57:28

My very good friend asked me to go to her mum's funeral, even though she had two sisters and many other relatives who attended. I didn't know her mum at all but went along for my friend. I imagine your friend would also appreciate you going but maybe you could ask her.

icbn2802 Fri 12-Jan-18 14:27:23

Thankyou everybody for all of your words and moral support. It all makes perfect sense and know that I have made the right decision in choosing to go. The one comment made re somebody else being too tied up to go really hit home, how upsetting that must have been. Anyway thankyou everybody!!