I’m so sorry for the loss of your wife and the loss of your old life caring for your wife. That’s so hard for you. To be truthful, your sons sound like they have been wrapped up with their own lives and families for a long time and realistically they aren’t going to change in my opinion. And frankly I think you have little of anything else to think about beyond this, resulting in this increasingly angry person today. I’m going to suggest that you write it all down, your hurt and bitterness until you can reach empty and forgiveness, and then burn the letter. Every scrap. Watch it burn and let it go. Forgive them and release yourself.
Next, and ideally alongside, is to get out and meet new people. Volunteer at a charity shop, join U3A, join a local lunch club, take up a new hobby that you didn’t have a chance to do with your caring duties, act as a befriender or a sitter for other carers. In other words please try and get out every day with people. Lastly make an effort to see your grandkids every few weeks at least. You can have a fun, rewarding and lasting relationship with them if you make the effort and then just accept that your sons as they are, not what you wish them to be. I wish you all the luck in this new world and accept changes are hard but anything worthwhile always is.
Heated Brush recommendation,please.
Last weekend, in Rutland, the first statue in Britain of the late Elizabeth II was unveiled.