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Bereavement

Unexpected emotions

(27 Posts)
MawBroon Sun 19-Aug-18 20:28:30

DD1 is visiting friends in the New Forest and as usual when she is there she checks on the family grave at Ringwood (DH’s grandparents, his parents and our baby son) and tidies it up as necessary. (We decided against it for DH so he is buried in the village churchyard here.)
She has just sent me a pic and reported that it is clean, tidy and peaceful and that has just knocked me sideways sadsadsad

cornergran Sun 19-Aug-18 20:47:07

It’s the unexpected I would think maw. Be good to yourself, give Hattie an extra cuddle, Sending love and hugs.

Baggs Sun 19-Aug-18 20:48:17

flowers

Grannyben Sun 19-Aug-18 20:53:34

And one from me to let you know I'm thinking of you flowers

kathsue Sun 19-Aug-18 21:03:26

It's little things that can suddenly bring back all the pain of loss. flowers

kittylester Sun 19-Aug-18 21:05:19

And a hug from me maw. It's stirring up memories for you. Be gentle with yourself.

grannyqueenie Sun 19-Aug-18 21:07:35

Grief has so many layers and facets. Things can just creep up and floor us unexpectedly, usually just when we thing we’re doing fine, we’ll as fine as we can be. More flowers from me x

baubles Sun 19-Aug-18 21:07:49

flowers

Chewbacca Sun 19-Aug-18 21:12:35

It's still early days Maw and you're still experiencing "first events" that aren't anticipated, but just knock the ground from under you when they occur. You have lots of flowers so I'll offer you a brew with me.

aggie Sun 19-Aug-18 21:49:17

Our family grave is beside the path leading to the Church door , lots of people visit graves every Sunday after Mass , I can't bring myself to do more than glance at it of a Sunday , but don't feel as bad visiting to tidy on a quiet weekday

ginny Sun 19-Aug-18 22:03:00

?x

grannyqueenie Sun 19-Aug-18 22:23:00

oops, note to self... always remember to preview before posting!
thing = think
we’ll = well

paddyann Sun 19-Aug-18 22:28:30

Grief jumps out and hits you at the oddest times ,it can be a song or a piece of clothing or even just hearing a name in passing .the loss is always there. It doesn't go away we only learn to live with it.I hope you find peace in the coming days ,it will take time to process this grief and file it away.Until the next time.It becomes easier to do after time.

Jalima1108 Sun 19-Aug-18 22:49:51

It is the unexpected which can knock us for six
flowers
Be kind to yourself x

callgirl1 Mon 20-Aug-18 00:14:06

Hugs Maw x

NanKate Mon 20-Aug-18 07:22:41

Thinking of you Maw ?

morethan2 Mon 20-Aug-18 07:31:20

I wish I could say somthing helpful but know it’s impossible. I just want you to know that I’m sitting here thinking of you.flowers ((((hug)))))

OldMeg Mon 20-Aug-18 07:40:21

(((hugs)))

Anniebach Mon 20-Aug-18 08:25:00

Thinking of you Maw x

DanniRae Mon 20-Aug-18 08:55:05

flowers from too xx

sodapop Mon 20-Aug-18 09:33:19

Such random things remind us of our loved ones Maw but also sometimes happy memories as well.
Thinking of you flowers

Parsley3 Mon 20-Aug-18 09:41:57

It is all about love, Maw. Sometimes a good cry can be just what is needed. Be kind to yourself today. ???

GrannyGravy13 Mon 20-Aug-18 10:13:50

???? Grief is the price we pay for loving. Just when you think you are doing ok, something comes along and you feel as if you are back to square one in the grieving process. It can be a smell, a song, or just a moment!

Sending you love and hugs, hoping you will find a little thing today to make you smile.

Nanagem Mon 20-Aug-18 22:03:46

There’s nothing I can say that hasn’t been said, sometimes things just give you a jolt, some days, even the happy good things can hurt. Thinking of you, and sending hugs, tea, and a big slice of cheesecake, never fails to make me feel better.

Menopaws Mon 20-Aug-18 22:10:53

Thinking of you Maw flowers