Wedding rings after death of husband

I couldn't get my wedding ring off over my knuckle now, even if I ever wanted to. I had to have it covered with sticking plaster when I needed an operation.
My MIL had her husband's wedding ring cut in half and made into a pair of hoop earrings after he died. I thought that was a lovely idea.

Of course you should wear your rings with pride. How rude of her to even comment. Widowed, divorced, single, we can wear what we like on any finger. Or toe!

GreenGran78 If you do decide to leave any rings in your will do make your children aware. My grand-father bequeathed his signet ring to my father, this was only declared at the reading of his will - after he had been buried.

My mother wore her wedding ring in the ten years between my father's death and her death. It is her ring that I wear - perhaps she should have been buried in it. The only two times I have taken it off was during the labour and birth of DD1 because my fingers swelled after the epidural and the other time was when I broke my wrist and it had to be cut off because of swelling. I'm a bit superstitious about taking it off. I would definitely continue to wear it if widowhood should strike.

My husband died in an accident over 24 years ago when I was 38. My immediate thought was to take the ring off, the words of “until death us depart”. I had a very strong feeling of not wanting to wear it. I also couldn’t bear to have photos of him out. It was too upsetting. I suffered terribly with the horrendous grief. It took me 3 years to be able to move on. I did what worked for me. There’s no right or wrong way. You have to do what feels right for you in order to survive
Hugs to you xx

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I think yes of course wear Wedding and Engagement rings as you wish, its still a symbol of love,and lovely to have a constant reminder of a loved one.

Yes, keep them on. When my husband left me it was the hardest thing for me to do to remove my rings even though we were divorced.

My mum is 94 and like ninathenana's mum still wears hers. She can't get her original wedding ring off as her knuckles have got bigger. Sadly some toerag stole her bag and purse (while she worked inthe church garden!!!) which had her original engagement ring plus the 'new' wedding band and engagement ring Dad had bought her over the years. Dad died 20 years ago and was the only one for her

I would not dream of removing my wedding ring. DH died in February and in my head we are still married and always will be. I would love to wear his ring, which he never ever took off, but it is miles too big for me, even my thumb. It is in my jewellery box. I cannot imagine why anyone would suggest such a thing.

Why are so many people so judgemental of decisions made by those that have been widowed? If you are lucky enough to still have your husband, you have absolutely no idea of the issues!

Yes, I agree with the majority on here, it's part of you and your late husband, why would you want to take it off? Keep wearing it with pride........with love.......and in memory of your departed husband. God bless

I wear my mum's ring on my right hand and when I travel to different countries I say to the ring we're going to....... today Places she didn't have the chance to go to usually.

Each and everyone of us is different, I have very sensitive skin and consequently can go days or even weeks without my wedding band (or any other rings) on.

We should only do what we are comfortable with, nobody's business apart from yours Gypsyqueen13

My husband died 16 months ago I wear mine on my left hand still and his ring on my right hand

grandtanteJE65. It’s an individuals choice and it’s not up to you or anyone else to criticise .

It's non of your acquaintance business.

My father was buried with his wedding ring on and he outlived my mother by nine years.

I can't imagine taking my wedding ring off, if I survive my husband.

Even if the day comes where you meet another man whom you come to love, you will obviously tell him that you have been married and widowed, so why would anyone who had been happily married want to take off their ring?

It would be different, perhaps, if the marriage hadn't been all that happy.

There is no “normal” in this situation. The way we deal with the loss of a spouse/partner is as individual as we are and nobody should be criticised if their way is different to ours. I was widowed nearly eight years ago and took off my ring after about two years. My choice and nobody else’s business. In reality, I no longer felt married, we were parted by his death. Whatever you decide should be right for you and not influenced by the expectations of others.

I haven’t lost my husband, but if I did, I would continue to to wear my wedding, engagement, and eternity rings without any doubt. They were given as gifts, they would continue to be received gifts, even if the husband is deceased. However, it is different in the event of a divorce.

My daughter is a young widow and still wears her rings and I would do exactly the same.

my husband died 36 years ago and i still wear my rings although i moved them to my right hand after 5 years. when i kept them on my left hand i found men who approached me thought i was married but looking for an affair.

My mum was widowed when she was 45 - still wore her wedding ring until the day she died at 82.

My grandmother was a widow for 53 years. She never ever took her wedding ring off.

It's a personal choice, and you must do what feels right for you, Gypsyqueen13, and if it feels right to continue wearing them, then that is what you must do, and don't let the remarks of others influence you into changing your mind.
I know that I would continue wearing mine if I were in your situation, but that's my personal choice. It would never occur to me not to. My Mum and both Grandma's continued to wear theirs.