Dear BlackTabby2, Hey there, dear lady, I really feel for you. In some respects we have similar stuff going on. Although at 73 I am a good deal older than your mere 58 - a mere teenager! and I am also disabled, live alone and don't see my son and his growing family often enough. I also have bouts of thinking about death and dying, sometimes hide myself away in a dark place, and have discovered that lots of folk in my age group struggle with similar thoughts. In the first instance you are grieving, a natural process which has to be let to run it's course. It is useless to resist and it is also a healing process, and any attempt to resist will simply make it persist. Please have patience with yourself on that score. It will gradually fade with time and you will have your memories of those loved ones whom you have lost in the physical world. I will now try to describe and offer ideas to cope which you may - or may not - find helpful to you. Suspecting I may suffer from mild depression or low mood from time to time, I take a couple of supplements. First of all there is St John's Wort which I purchase from ASDA, but which you can find online - excellent for mood, see Amazon? Also I make sure I have a good supply of the B vitamins, particularly vitamin B3 in the form of Niacinamide, which is the form which doesn't bring on the famous flush. This is also good for the brain and mood. You also mention that you are disabled. Exactly how disabled? Are you able to walk or bike ride at all? If so, try to get out into the fresh air and countryside surrounded by greenery, or into a local park. Or perhaps you have a garden where you can have your coffee and admire your flowers? Even better if it is sunny. If you can't, or if it is raining, try watching comedy shows, comedy films. When you wake up in the morning, immediately put on the radio - a light hearted music programme to lift your spirits and to lighten your mood. It is important to get out of the house and to make new friends. I did in the past join the U3A where you can join groups who walk together, lunch together, learn new things together, and I have just joined the Oddfellows which is a Friendly Society which has a care aspect to it too, and if you are not mobile they will arrange a lift to get you to their meetings. I recently completed the Action for Happiness course, founded by the Dalai Lama, which was a weekly meeting over eight weeks and contained valuable videos, exercises in meditation and also an opportunity to make new friends. You can find them online and find where the next one is nearest to you. There are community things in which to join, various churches, classes, clubs, the WI, exercise classes, art groups, local history groups, volunteering. Get yourself a new notebook and every night before you sleep jot down 5 things for which you are grateful, and over time increase it to 10 things. Also look at your dietary input. Water contains a load of rubbish, so what about a filtering system? Look at Brita. Also try going as organic as possible. A lot of problems are caused by the pesticides and fertilisers used in food production which is responsible for a host of maladies. Sainsbury's has the best selection of organic veg and you can also find organic meat and wild salmon there too. Also, every time you have a negative thought it risks becoming a habit which you can break. Thoughts make pathways in the brain, so it is important to consciously create new ones. So when you have a thought you don't like and don't want to have, notice it and then say to yourself something positive, such as "health, wealth, success and happiness" which is a little "mantra" I use myself. And, finally, are there any Gransnetters near you at all with whom you could meet up? Sending you love and massive hugs. xxxx