I agree with everything Eglantine has said.
Our DD's funeral will take place on Thursday. I know there will be people from Norther Ireland attending who made her life miserable when she was going through a messy divorce. Their reason for coming is to support their nephews (Our DGSs) but their contact with DD ended thirteen years ago.
It will stick in my craw but I will greet them with cool politeness then ignore them.
Our Welfare State. Is it broken?