I have never actually posted my own post before but I feel so sad and anxious I just need to share.
My husband passed away 3 years ago I struggle with his loss but find comfort in going to the grave weekly. My grandkids visit too sometimes.
Over the last few weeks I have noticed silly small things at his grave . First the grave was covered in grass cutting and leaves, it was piled so high I knew it wasn’t natural but I put it down to kids. Then I noticed flowers had been removed from the vases just little things over a number of weeks .
I popped up yesterday after work, (I visit weekly) everything had been removed and what was left had been smashed up. His little markers that said granddad, husband, sadly missed and so on were gone, the vases had been smashed his planters of wild flowers removed all the personal bits removed. The cross had been pulled up with the little wire fence removed and just thrown on the grave.
My husband was estranged from his family and there was a lot of bittiness and this was clearly personal. I think it’s someone that knows me but I can’t accuse anyone. No other grave near his seems to have been tampered with. I have spoken to the grave yard council and they did not remove anything and say vandalism is very unheard of this grave yard and feel this was someone that knew my husband. I have reported it to the police but dont want to waste their time.
I feel sad, anxious and lost so just wanted to share it. There is nothing left on the grave they had even tried to pull up the slate stones.
I put the cross and fence back and tidied it up best I could.
I always wanted a grave that showed he was loved to bits and this looks like he was unloved and uncared for.
Do I just start again and hope they it doesn’t happen again or do as my friends says and leave the grave undressed and empty ?
Thanks for listening.
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