Lighting a candle

? for my very dear friends baby boy born asleep. Remembered and loved for 45 years

?for everyone who has suffered in this way

Remembering the baby I miscarried in 1976, and my two lost grandsons. Thinking of all of you who have experienced these saddest of tragedies.

? ? ? ? one for a brother I never knew and 3 for grandchildren we never knew. Thank you maw

Thank you all for sharing your sadness.It is very humbling.

For my sibling who arrived to early, my babies who I couldn’t hold in my womb long enough to give them a chance and our 2 GC who we never got to meet

Didn’t know about this but just will add I’ll think of baby son I had terminated half way into pregnancy due to severe chromosomal abnormalities. Following year we had my lovely youngest daughter.

Thinking of all the lost little souls and their broken-hearted families. x

? My baby, lost in January 1977. I was living alone in Germany as my (then) husband was serving in Northern Ireland and my older children were fostered out during my hospital admission.

I was admitted to hospital a couple of weeks before Christmas following heavy bleeding. The doctors eventually told me the pregnancy was 'probably' not viable following heavy blood loss, but pregnancy tests still came back positive. Because I refused to allow them to give me a D&C until I had a negative test I was discharged on Christmas Eve as a 'difficult' patient. Two weeks later, following a negative test my GP told me the baby had died in utero, but I was refused a D&C by the hospital until the baby began to spontaneously abort four weeks later. Carrying a dead baby for so many weeks and still looking pregnant was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life, but I have never regretted giving my baby the chance of life.

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The actual time has passed, being gone 7pm, but I will light 3 candles in my heart.

Sending love to all who are lighting candles today.

grannyactivist

Thank you to everyone sharing their stories - GN at it's very best.

ga, that's very similar to my experience except we knew my baby had died but the consultant was in Australia for a month.

It is really traumatic meeting people ho know you are pregnant and still looking pregnant who ask how you are doing.

Added to which I occasionally worked as receptionist for dh!

Thanks Maw - I've only just read this thread and counted the number of babies lost in my family and in close friendships. It's a timely reminder for which thank you xx

I lit my candle and DH and I shared memories of our losses. It used to be something one didn't talk about, so glad now it is better understood. I hope all who shared our losses gained some comfort from knowing others were lighting their candles at the same time. We did.

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