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Bereavement

The joy has gone!

(67 Posts)
mande Tue 24-Dec-19 23:29:42

My wonderful friend was killed in a car accident on the motorway yesterday evening. We think she had become confused on the roundabout and went down the exit slipway into oncoming traffic. I am absolutely devastated.
Her body was released this evening and I was too afraid of driving to the wake to see her and be with her family. My own ability to see and drive at night is failing. My son, thank god, drove me there.
Everything gets so hard the older we get. And grief and loss compound the fears.

mande Wed 25-Dec-19 08:55:32

Thank you all for your very kind words. It has helped me to bear the pain.
She was a wonderful person, humble, kind, and helped so many who were in despair. One time I was lost and she showed me a better way and I would not be the person I am today if it had not been for her. I will be forever grateful to her and I will carry her with me always because of that.
She showed me (and many others) how to be grateful for what I had. In a world where there is so much strife we are lucky to have people like her. And I know Gransnet is full of people like that and for that too I am grateful. Thank you.

Forestflame Wed 25-Dec-19 09:15:51

Mande, so sorry to hear of your loss. Sending you hugs and Prayers. XX

Bobdoesit Wed 25-Dec-19 09:16:21

I'm so sorry. flowers

CoronadoGal Wed 25-Dec-19 09:27:18

Such a sad loss. ?Thinking of you at this very sad time.

Mauriherb Wed 25-Dec-19 09:32:36

So sorry to hear this, I send you love xx

Teetime Wed 25-Dec-19 09:32:51

mande I am so sorry, how very sad for you. flowers

Hm999 Wed 25-Dec-19 09:35:08

So sorry for you and her family. Yes, we must all take extra care with concentration in this wet weather or at night, especially if we are used to being good drivers (not me btw!)

McGilchrist41 Wed 25-Dec-19 09:38:39

So sorry. I have just seen it reported on tv. A loss at any time of the year is devastating but at Christmas it is just terrible.

patricia1958 Wed 25-Dec-19 09:58:46

Think of all the good times you have had and all the fun and laughdered you shared that nobody else did

Bernieellen Wed 25-Dec-19 10:00:41

So sorry for such a sad loss. You are in my prayers.

patricia1958 Wed 25-Dec-19 10:01:08

Think about all the good times fun and laughter you shared that nobody else did

mande Wed 25-Dec-19 10:04:47

patricia1958 That’s exactly what I will focus on. Thank god for good people in this world. Thank you all.

Madgran77 Wed 25-Dec-19 10:25:57

Mande flowers

MadeInYorkshire Wed 25-Dec-19 10:34:37

So very sorry to hear that, sending hugs xx

Dianehillbilly1957 Wed 25-Dec-19 10:35:33

Terribly sorry for you all.
She'll live on in your memories. Treasure them..✨

computor Wed 25-Dec-19 10:36:29

so sorry for your loss ,our thoughts are with you .take care

ALANaV Wed 25-Dec-19 10:41:34

flowers

Doodle Wed 25-Dec-19 10:42:27

So sorry for your loss and that of your friend’s family. Sincere condolences ?

Theoddbird Wed 25-Dec-19 11:14:36

No words can help. Her soul flies free. Hugs for you xxx

Knittynatter Wed 25-Dec-19 11:20:50

How very sad. God bless your friend and I wish peace in your heart. x

TwinLolly Wed 25-Dec-19 11:31:08

I'm sorry about your loss of a dear friend. Sending big hugs and thoughts to you and your friend's family.flowers

Gransooz Wed 25-Dec-19 11:56:28

So sorry to read your sad news. Sincere condolences. ?

blueberry1 Wed 25-Dec-19 12:00:11

So sorry to hear such terrible news. Her family must be distraught. Love and strength to you all x

hulahoop Wed 25-Dec-19 12:26:14

Sorry to hear hear your news .she will be remembered in yours and her family' thoughts .

Esmerelda Wed 25-Dec-19 12:34:48

Oh Mande, I am sitting here with tears in my eyes. I am so very, very sorry for you and her family. Love and hugs to you ...❤?