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Heard my name called

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TrendyNannie6 Sat 29-Feb-20 10:40:57

After Both my parents died, and quite a few years between both of their passings, I distinctly heard them call my name, my dad did within the first week, and my mum did few days after she’d passed, I will also add I definately was NOT dreaming and it was in the early hours, Anyone Else experienced this

Oopsadaisy1 Sun 10-Jan-21 14:22:01

I think that you should start a new thread.

I’m not sure what you are asking ?

Do you need advice or are you just venting?

Laddie Sun 10-Jan-21 14:15:36

MY Mother passed away and then my Father passed away -
one of my Sisters sons - has been phoning me and passing nasty comments, saying that you are by yourself now and it was him and that he done it on purpose, and you do not need a big house, as we use to live in Formby - Liverpool and some of my Mother relations - smashed our home window in the night and then they came back and smashed one of our car windows in and then they came back and put a chemical though our letter box, which made the family unwell - and later on we had to put our family dog down - due to the smoke of the chemical - but also they were bulling my Mother for years and calling her names and following her home from work as well - then we moved twice and they were going on - to my Mother - you and your two cars and one a other time my Mothers Father passed away and they were bulling my Mother and two of the mothers relations went for my Mother and one tried to hit in the face and the other one tried to hit on the back of the head - on the way out - - but her sister - kind of goes on - that we all vote for Labour around here - we think they were very jellies' of my Mother and Father -
WE have been InTouch with the Merseyside police - with regard this son of my Mothers sister - and he has also been making thetas as well - but the police will not do anything about it - and to what my Mothers Sisters son been bragging - we - now think it was him who put our window in and other things to our property in Formby - Liverpool and done harm to our family.....

tiredoldwoman Sun 01-Nov-20 06:21:47

I've always been the fat, black sheep of the family , kept hidden away then kept myself hidden .
My Mum died 9 years ago but one afternoon when doing my ironing , relaxed and happy , I was thinking about the family plan to go and visit an aunt for her 80th birthday .
I heard a loud voice behind me which made me jump around in fright , rocking the ironing board and iron in the air . It was my mother's voice stating " But , Lizzie , you can't go " .
Has never happened again .

Elrel Sun 01-Nov-20 01:10:46

One evening I was in the bathroom getting ready for bed when I heard my name clearly said behind me. It was a female voice which could possibly have been my mother’s. She had died many years before. Interesting to read this thread.

charliemouse66 Sat 31-Oct-20 22:53:49

My mother died in a hospice surrounded by my family I couldn’t be there the pain was to much, I received the phone call to say she had passed and it was all over now and the family left. I decided I had to see her so drove up to the hospice in a terrible state and entered the room to see her one last time I told her I loved her and was so sorry for being a bit troublesome when I was younger and had never felt pain like I was feeling at that moment with that I left. The next day I had a hospital appointment while I was sat in the waiting room I heard her voice as clear as day say my name like she was sat right behind me I looked round expecting her to be there it was that clear, then. approximately 2 years later I went away for the weekend was walking down the shopping mall and heated her again I know it was my mum and not anything else she had a quiet Irish accent and I heard it as plain as day, I have never heard it again but know she is there and watching over us x

Dibbydod Wed 07-Oct-20 11:00:39

My partner of over 20 years passed away last October. The next morning I was sat on the edge of bed talking to my daughter on the phone when I felt movement behind me , I looked around thinking it was my little dog jumping up on the bed but my dog was nowhere to be seen.....a little while later , after finishing the phone call , I was sat by my dressing table brushing my hair , and felt a strong sense of feeling that someone was standing in the bedroom doorway , so , much so, I’d phoned my daughter back to tell her ...it didn’t frighten me as I knew it was my partner visiting me ......
Couple weeks later, I’d taken my dog over the park for his usual run , and I distinctly heard my partners voice calling my name along with a sense of a slight tap on my shoulder..

Charleygirl5 Wed 26-Aug-20 16:03:20

My parents died over 40 years ago when I was in my early 30's.

My mother definitely called my name a few times- usually when I was lying in bed, not asleep but thinking about sleep.

BBbevan Wed 26-Aug-20 15:56:56

I remember my Mum answering my Dad ,a week or so after he died. When I asked who she was talking to, she said he often called her.
After my Grandma died I often thought I saw her out of the corner of my eye.

PinkCakes Tue 25-Aug-20 21:50:19

I've experienced that, years ago. I also experienced hearing a meow from a cat that had died.

Grief can do strange things to a person's mind sometimes.

Londonwifi Tue 25-Aug-20 21:08:57

I have heard my sister’s voice and I’ve felt terrible about it ever since because I had nodded off in my 4 yr old son’s bed as he played with his toys in the room.
My sister had recently died of breast cancer at the very young age of 36 and had had a very traumatic few years preceding her diagnosis. Nothing was going right for her. She had wanted family and it wasn’t to be and I suppose everything she wanted, I had which made me feel very guilty. She wrote me a goodbye letter before she died which told me she loved me and made my heart break. I didn’t reply to it other than to say thankyou which I’ve always regretted. I suppose I didn’t want to accept the awful situation.
When I heard her voice she was shouting, “You bitch!” at me as I woke up and I heard it when I was awake too. I felt so guilty for my son that I had slept even for a short time and I felt awful because her voice sounded so fierce that it seemed full of hate.
I am hoping that if there is life after death that she loves me as I do her even though I have made many mistakes in bringing up my son. :-(

Alexa Fri 06-Mar-20 12:56:33

Gosh that's impressive, Trixee!

Trixee Thu 05-Mar-20 18:53:39

In the forties and fifties a certain folk song was often played on the ‘wireless’, as soon as Mum heard it she would drop what she was doing and rush to switch it off. We never knew why because Mum would be snappy if asked saying it was “just unlucky”. After Mum had died I went to a spiritualist meeting in the village hall a few times with friends for tea and a natter. One such time after the meeting the visiting medium came over and said she could hear singing connected to me, when she told me the song, I was dumbstruck.

TrendyNannie6 Tue 03-Mar-20 20:22:44

Guineagirl yes it was a great comfort to me, as lots of things have been over the years, I always feel sad though when I hear that some other people haven’t had an experience to comfort them, I’d love to think that more people will at some time in their lives, as it really does help you come to terms with death

Fibrogran59 Mon 02-Mar-20 17:26:12

Many years ago, when i was 15, my father had a massive heart attack and was dead before he even hit the floor. A few days after he passed, i was at home walking upstairs to my room when i heard him call my name. I never heard him since. The night before he died, we had fallen out with each other. I wonder if he was trying to tell me that everything was alright between us again. I will never know now.

madmum38 Mon 02-Mar-20 15:43:59

My daughter had got up in the night and gone into the bathroom to be sick, I hadn’t heard her get up though, she is 17 and never knew any grandparent. Next morning she thanked me for having talked to her while she was vomiting, I told her I hadn’t but asked what was said. The words spoken and the way they were spoken was as my mum used to talk to me. Often hear and see things in my home though so not surprised

Grannyhall29 Mon 02-Mar-20 13:02:11

Yes I've had this a few times, Dad
and Mam died 15/10 years ago, wakes me up and makes me jump, as I have heart trouble I wonder if something is happening and they shout my name to bring me round but no idea why I hear it really

glammanana Mon 02-Mar-20 10:29:12

When we where leaving the Chapel after the service for my darling husband came on the radio in our car it was Woman by John Lennon one of my John's favourite songs I have heard it so many times since then brings tears to my eyes every time.
We had so many special songs and I can remember where we where for every one.

Patticake123 Mon 02-Mar-20 09:18:51

My darling Dad came into my bedroom, sat on the bed, put his arms around me and told me to look after Mum. He had been cremated a fortnight before. I then had a vivid ‘dream ‘about him where he was in a beautiful garden , leaning on a spade with the loveliest smile on his face. He handed me a bunch of flowers , reassured me he was alright and that Mum would be joining him. The next day my lovely Mum died. As far as I’m aware I’m completely sane. These happenings were comforting not at all frightening and whatever anyone else thinks, I think it was my Dad helping me.

3dognight Mon 02-Mar-20 08:50:55

A friend of the family whose mum and dad passed within six months of each other, when she was a young single mum, told me this of her father: he used to visit regularly and sit in the armchair, the last time he came his hair was very long and tied up with something like chop sticks keeping it in place, he was wearing white robes, and told her he would not be able to visit any more as he was going to a place where there are many doors. I think that was the last time she saw him.

Yogagirl Mon 02-Mar-20 08:21:50

It was; thanks D, thanks for everything [pause] thanks for everything you've done

Yogagirl Mon 02-Mar-20 08:05:13

My youngest daughter & I were always telephathic , Kryptonite She had just moved out and needed to speak to the doctor about something but never phoned them for an app. So a week later I phoned them and the receptionist said ' you'll never guess who's on the other phone, asking the same thing as you, your daughter!' We had lot's of situations like that, so making it so hard when she estranged herself 7yrs ago. A few weeks after the estrangement I heard my granddaughter calling me sad we were very, very close.

I can remember my mum & dad's voices, clear as a bell & their laughs. When my dad passed away, I was with him in the hospital, they said it was just an infection, but would keep him in for observation over night. When I left he said ^ thanks D, [pause] thanks for every you've done^ which I thought was more than needed. Next day when I phoned, they told me he had passed away [they only had my brothers no. his ph was off] So I think my dad knew he was going, contary to the Doctors.

Guineagirl Mon 02-Mar-20 07:20:05

Trendienannie that must of been a comfort to you. I know there are sceptics about this sort of thing but I don’t see how anyone unless they do die and come to life say these things don’t happen. I don’t find as many now but when my Mam died I found a lot of white feathers one on the roof of my car the week I bought it which was in the garage at the time and one next to my bike. I believe in the feathers.

When my Mam was dying she was calling my Dads name Mam had dementia and she couldn’t really remember his name but she called it quite loudly a few times before she died.

Has anyone watched or read the Lovely Bones?

Purplepoppies Mon 02-Mar-20 07:18:09

I had a strange dream about my daughters father (ex) being in a hospital bed. Very real to me. I told her. Sadly she didn't contact him. He died a few months later.
When she went to organise his funeral she stayed in his house. On the first night she woke up to him shouting her name. Like she was getting told off as a child again. It frightened her. And upset her in equal measures. They had a difficult relationship. I am sad for her that she didn't get to say what she wanted to say and especially that she didn't make it in time to say goodbye 😔

Joplin Mon 02-Mar-20 03:35:41

Now I'm quite scared my mother might suddenly appear, although I think it's unlikely ( long time ago ). She was the cruelest person I have ever known & I've never really got over the things she did & said - I get many flashbacks & have to make a big effort to concentrate on something else. Those of you who have nice memories are very lucky.

hollysteers Mon 02-Mar-20 00:48:10

After my husband died I “saw” something shadowy downstairs which frightened me, although I so wanted to see him and still do. I have heard my name called, but don’t know who it might be. I also have tinnitus!
I wake up so many mornings after dreaming I am with my husband or my mother and find it a comfort to think we probably spend hours with them in dreams but only know of it just before we wake. It reminds me of the lovely Roy Orbison song “In dreams”