My sincere condolences on your loss. As said many times in response to your original posting, everyone sees the choice differently. My 2 sisters and I were with my Mum as she left us. My sisters did not want to visit her in the Chapel of Rest, I did and spent a while chatting as I would have anyway, about the bulbs coming up in the garden, that we'd been looking after the house for her, etc. No, Mum did not look as she had always done, her illness from dementia and the gap between her passing and the funeral had left their mark, but I also have a lifetime of happier and earlier memories so this is not the lasting memory I have of her. Whatever you decide, it will not be wrong, and I'm sure your Mum would support your decision, if you had been able to ask her. Maybe this is a lesson to us, to talk with our families about our final wishes, including the decision about any final 'meeting', where any choice is possible. In sympathy.