I keep getting pop ups for direct cremation services but it’s not for me, I want a proper service with beautiful flowers (from close family only) my favourite songs blaring out and the eulogy written & read by my children followed by a good wake with a traditional buffet. This is what we did for my DH, his wake was held at the local Cricket Club where he had played for many years, man & boy, the weather was beautiful and we all sat outside. I was in a daze at times and it was of course so very sad but it was also a lovely day when so many people came together to celebrate his life, it was what he would have wanted. The flowers weren’t wasted, I asked some very close friends and family if they would like to take a single rose or some flowers home and then we had flowers taken to the graves of some of my my DH family & also to a close friend who we sadly lost 20 years ago. I also brought some home.
We had a collection and made generous donations to a cancer charity & to the local hospice who had been so helpful to us.
I hate the idea of being whisked off in the back of a van to be cremated with no service (not that I would know anything about it I suppose) I do think the funeral service and the stories people recollect about the deceased at the wake afterwards help the family through such an awful time, but of course it’s each to their own. I do realise that if I live to be very old there may not be too many people left to attend! Anyway, I have made this known to all of my DC and hopefully they will carry out my wishes, I’ll be paying for it after all