It is now 29 years since my second child, a little girl was stillborn. I was 5 days past my due date, there had been concerns during the pregnancy but it still was a huge shock and has affected my life ever since. She was absolutely perfect, a good weight and beautiful. Although I went on to have other children, I have never really come to terms with her lose. Every year which has passed, I find myself wondering what she would have been like and feeling so sad about the life which she has missed. I was visiting my daughter a few days ago and happened to start speaking to a lovely lady. She was a granny to a 2 year old little girl but then told me that her DIL had had a stillborn little girl in March. It just took me back to that awful time. I gave her some advice re support groups etc but felt just so sad that 29 years later, babies are still being stillborn. Like me, her DIL had to go through the trauma of giving birth, knowing the baby was dead. It is so incredibly cruel. Are there other grans who have had this tragedy happen. How have you coped? Is it a case that time can only heal partially and one never really totally comes to terms with it. My other 3 children lost their sister. I can remember my eldest telling his class that he had another sister but she had died. Even though when he had started school, I had written to the school to advise them, his teacher took me aside that day and told me he had been making stories up. I was so upset that he had opened up but not been believed. They never did find out why she had died, the post mortem showed nothing. X
