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Bereaved at Christmas

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denisep5 Mon 13-Dec-21 10:59:57

Hi everyone

My partners mum passed away on 4.12 and my mum passed away on 5.12. We lost them both suddenly within 24 hours and we are numb. We have funerals on 17th and 22nd and the thought of Christmas is killing me. I can’t even comprehend putting a tree up am I being unreasonable ? I don’t know x?

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ElaineI Mon 13-Dec-21 19:06:46

So sorry for all of your losses. Allow yourselves time to grieve and think back to happy times with them.

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Kim19 Mon 13-Dec-21 19:08:13

Not unreasonable at all. Do what feels right for you and gives you any degree of comfort the pair of you can muster. So sad for you both ?

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Aldom Mon 13-Dec-21 20:38:53

Barmyoldbat flowers
What a dreadful shock and sadness for you all.

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sodapop Tue 14-Dec-21 09:22:20

So sorry about your bereavements denisep5 of course you are not being unreasonable. You and your family should spend the time as you wish, quietly remembering those you have lost, going to church etc. You have my sympathy thanks

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Elless Tue 14-Dec-21 11:21:53

How terribly sad, I feel for you both.

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Grammaretto Sun 19-Dec-21 20:52:23

You are still in shock. I lost my DH to cancer just over a year ago and although I spent the day with DD and her family, it was a very sad Christmas. His dad died 2 weeks after he did. A big loss of two big personalities.
This year I have a tree, thanks to a friend, and an invitation or two, but I am not feeling at all festive and very lonely.
Condolences to you both.

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Hetty58 Sun 19-Dec-21 21:03:36

denisep5, (from experience) have exactly the kind of day that suits you. Ignore any and all expectations and traditions, just try to find the least painful way to get through it. You can ignore it completely, join others elsewhere or have a very simple, basic 'special' day, whatever seems right.

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Ali23 Sun 19-Dec-21 21:10:26

Oh I’m so sorry to hear your news. I lost my dad at Xmas many years ago, and it is so hard to bare isn’t it.
I agree, do exactly what feels right for you. I do hope that you can find some peace and comfort together.

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Serendipity22 Tue 28-Dec-21 12:56:47

denisep5

I am SO very sorry to read this, you must do what you feel is right. Each of us handles a situation differently and its not for anyone to say otherwise

1 day at a time.

Thinking of you.

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Jade4 Mon 20-Jun-22 17:48:02

I’ve mentioned that my beloved husband died a year last December, can’t find my message. It is his Birthday on 22 June, how will I get through the day. I miss him so badly. Family and friends Are so supportive but at the end of the day you are alone with your thoughts. I find it so hard to bear never to see him again

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Luckygirl3 Mon 20-Jun-22 18:12:15

Birthdays and other milestones can be a challenge. Somehow we get through them. I try and plan something to do to take my mind off it - visit a DD, or a garden or whatever. Something to stop me dwelling on it.

I will be thinking of you. flowers

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