I don't know what to do for the best.
My parents were divorced when I was 11. Younger brother stayed with father and his horrifically abusive wife (physical abuse of my bro). Despite this, my brother is the one who maintained contact with father. Not a lot, 2 or 3 phone calls a year.
My dad didn't see me at all after the divorce, until we briefly resumed contact when I got married. I cut this contact after 5 or 6 years because the memories were too traumatic. I don't regret this.
Fathers wife died about 6 months ago. Father has dementia and is in a home. My brother is down as his next of kin. BUT brother is seriously ill. Despite being younger than me, his life span is very shortened. He's in no way capable of sorting out anything for our father.
Should I step in? I'm happy to let our father go his grave with no contact from me. BUT I wonder if I should help, to avoid my brother being bothered with it. Equally, I worry if I DO get involved, that bro's family will worry I'm after our fathers money. I'm not. I'm happy for it to go to my brother. He needs the help due to his health problems.
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