Hope you don't think I am crass, but I do need advice

What a shock for you all grandtanteJE65 after your more positive posts just a few weeks ago.
So pleased you are able to say he died peacefully and had seen his son.
I hope you have good support around to help you xxx

I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss, Grandtante*. 💐

Oh dear. To suffer loss is an unavoidable part of the human condition. We all have our own way of managing it, and I'm not going to tell you and your DH how to do it.
When we knew my DH was dying, we did tell everyone and we were both so grateful for the love and support of AC and their spouses, also of friends near and far and his former colleagues and employees.
We spent lots of time remembering our life together and recognising how fortunate we had been. Eventually, when death was near, he mostly just wanted me to read to him.
One thing about cancer is that people do get the chance to say the things that need saying. My DF died suddenly from a heart attack, so that he and my DM never had that opportunity.

My thoughts are with you and your family at this deeply sad time.

So sorry to read of your husband’s death. So hard for you and your son and all family and friends 🕯

So very sorry to read your sad news grandtanteJE65. Sending a hug. x

So very sorry to hear your sad news. May your DH rest in peace 💐

So sorry to hear your sad news Grandetante my thoughts are with you and your family.

Grandetante So sorry to hear your sad news. My Dad had oesophageal cancer back in the early 1980s - no real treatment in those days unfortunately. It is so hard when the end is sooner than expected.
Big hugs to you.

I’m so sorry to hear your sad news grandetante. My condolences to you and all who loved your husband.

Deepest condolences 💐

Grandetante I’m so very sorry. I have no words except to say that I know what you and your family are going through. You will find your inner strengths. Be kind to yourselves and take it a day at a time.💐

Very sorry to hear your sad news. 💐

So sorry to hear your sad news💐

I also lost my beloved husband to oesophageal cancer eight years ago. Such a cruel disease.

My heartfelt condolences to you and all who loved your dear husband.

I’m so sorry to hear your news, but glad your son was able to say goodbye to your husband.
The next few weeks are going to be hideous. “Tell us once” is an extremely helpful website. Be prepared for organisations to murmur their condolences then be impossibly obstructive.
Accept EVERY offer of help, even if it means taking a rain cheque.
All the very best at this most difficult and emotionally draining time. Be aware that you are going to be ambushed by sadness at the least expected times.
Big 🫂 hugs

Sorry to hear your sad news. 💐

This is so sad and very difficult for you. Please stay positive for him and smile as much as you can. When I was diagnosed with cancer one of the worst things I had to deal with was other people’s grief. Your DH will need you to be the strong one. Sending love 💐

I’m so sorry to hear this news grandetante.

So sorry to read your sad news, Grandetante. It is hard when the end is sooner than expected, but glad that your husband hung on long enough to see his son. He is at peace now.
All our thoughts are with you.

So, so sorry.

I was so sad to read your news Grandtante.
Please know that I too hold you in my heart at this time most difficult time 🕯️.

So sorry grandetanteJE65 Thinking of you.

I’m so sorry to hear your sad news Grandtante

Oh grandtante was so very sorry and shocked to hear your sad news today - the prognosis for your DH had seemed so positive. My Mum had oesophagous cancer and it's very hard to see someone you love struggling to eat and drink. So glad that your DH managed to say goodbye to your son. My sincerest condolences to you all.