Yesterday we were hit by the bombshell: my husband presumablly has a malign tumour and the prognosis is not good.
He quite understandably has managed to understand the doctor's words much more favourably than I did, and I do realise that this is a coping strategy that he is using to find the strenght to fight the cancer.
I have no desire to undermine his efforts, but these include refusing to discuss the subject and initially asking me not to tell anyone - son, SILs friends etc. although he later agreed that I need someone to talk to about this.
So please, if any of you who have been the healthy partner in a marriage that looks like being dissolved by death very soon, can you give me any pointers?
How do I balance his needs with mine?
How do I help him best?
And how do I find the strength to smile "Although my heart is breaking"
I am looking at support groups right now, but as we don't live in the UK, you don't need to suggest any by name, as we have different ones here.
I know I married him for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and I know we are both shell-shocked right now. and the prognosis may not look so dire on Friday when the biopsy report is in, but I need to soldier on without weeping, as obviously that distresses my husband and does me no good either.
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