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Sense or vision of my late dad?

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drbledu23 Sun 24-Sept-23 23:45:50

My dad died a couple of months back and my mum has been struggling to accept that he has gone and that she couldn't foresee it or do anything to prevent it. Lot of up and down days at present and she is constantly berating herself thinking 'I could have done this' or 'I shouldn't have said that' which is a normal part of the grieving process.

Funnily enough she told me that this afternoon she had been looking at a photo of her and my dad in their younger days, having a bit of a cry and asking him to give her some sign that he had forgiven her. She dozed off on the settee for an hour or so and says that when she woke up she had a vision of a man standing next to her by the settee just looking ahead at the window. When she turned her head slightly the vision vanished. Quite shook her up to say the least. She wasn't sure if it was my dad as the man seemed taller than she remembered him (although in his younger days he looked taller and was slimmer). Not even sure if she was still half sleep.

I know there are lots people who recount similar experiences but was wondering is=f anyone else on here has experienced such things and how they dealt with it?

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MerylStreep Thu 28-Sept-23 08:02:27

absent

If it's true for you, then it's true.

Absolutely 😊

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Esmay Thu 28-Sept-23 08:11:13

I'm a product of a truly distrastrous
marriage and I was really fortunate that My Grandma brought me up .

I really miss her .

Frankly , I think that her life was terrible with my parents .

My father hated and resented her .
My mother was always having a crisis and was totally unappreciative of the way that she was left to run the house .

And sometimes , when I'm working in the garden I see her .
She's there - standing beneath the trees watching me .

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FarawayGran Thu 28-Sept-23 19:50:33

My dad died when I was very young.
I learned to live without him, but always missed him.
Somebody once told me that my dad was looking after me, it gave me comfort.
However, what convinced me that he was indeed looking after me was when I was heavily pregnant and was walking up a steep hill, I felt an arm go round my back and gently push me forward.
I also often find feathers and butterflies in strange places. I think my departed mum is speaking to me

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Primrose53 Thu 28-Sept-23 22:19:07

My Dad died in 2007 aged 86. I was walking through a churchyard a few months after he died. It was a gorgeous day. I kept to the path and as I rounded a bend, there he stood ahead of me leaning against a headstone, smiling and leaning slightly to one side as he always did. There was a lovely golden glow all around him. I walked towards him and he vanished.

We regularly hear someone walking about upstairs, the floorboards creak from my bedroom and along the landing. My Mum always came to ours for the weekend and always went up for a sleep after lunch. We assume it’s her and it doesn’t bother us, it’s quite comforting.

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Treacletoffee Mon 02-Oct-23 13:40:10

Whiff
What lovely heartfelt words flowers

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Mom3 Tue 23-Jan-24 02:00:09

My dad died at age 90. A year or so later, my 12-year-old daughter was riding in the car with me. I saw a man walking along the sidewalk and as I had the thought that he looked like my dad, she said, "that man looks like Grandpa". I told her I had thought so, too. I even made a u-turn at the next intersection and drove back to look but the man was gone. We thought maybe he got on a bus. It was a strange feeling and every once in awhile, she will mention it and she's now fifty.

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