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Bereavement

Loss of adult son

(66 Posts)
Juniewoonie Sun 17-Dec-23 08:40:59

I’m a widow and three weeks ago lost my only adult son. It was only ten short days from diagnosis to death from adrenal cancer. I’m absolutely broken! How on earth do I go on? He was my comfort and joy. He was only 30 years old. He has left a void in my life that I don’t think I can ever recover from. Never to love or be loved again.

Chocolatelovinggran Sun 17-Dec-23 16:30:17

Junie I am so sorry to hear this. Such a terrible thing to happen and no time to prepare. I can do nothing but say that I hope other people around you can offer some comfort.

garnet25 Sun 17-Dec-23 17:11:49

Oh Junie I feel for you so very much and send my heartfelt sympathy. Our younger son died suddenly of a heart attack at the age of 30 so I understand some of what you are feel. Thankfully though my husband was still alive as was my older son. You must feel totally bereft. One thing that helped me was to write to him and I still "chat" to him every day and try and figure out what he would think about what's happening in the world. You son will always be with you in your heart. Sending loving thoughts and hugs. x

Urmstongran Sun 17-Dec-23 17:16:28

Oh Junie at times like this there are really no words. Your loss is so profound and utterly heartbreaking.
Xx

MamGu12 Sun 17-Dec-23 17:21:14

No words just a virual 🤗 🥲x

MamGu12 Sun 17-Dec-23 17:22:27

Virtual

Smileless2012 Sun 17-Dec-23 17:25:27

There are no words Juniewoonie as 'I'm so very sorry' is woefully inadequate flowers.

Desdemona Sun 17-Dec-23 17:31:14

There are no satisfactory words.

Sending you all the love in the world xxxx

Shelflife Sun 17-Dec-23 17:34:36

Nothing I can ' say' will ease your grief. I can not begin to imagine the distress you are in, what I can do is put myself in your position and recognize your pain . Please know that everyone on GN is thinking of you . I send you ((( hugs ))) and sincerely hope you find some comfort and strength be from friends and family. 🌺🌺

Kandinsky Sun 17-Dec-23 17:49:22

So very sorry.
Unimaginable grief that no words can heal.
Sending you much love & strength xx

SueDonim Sun 17-Dec-23 18:30:56

I am so sorry, Junie, such unbearable losses. flowers

Litterpicker Sun 17-Dec-23 19:24:20

Junie, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you will feel able to contact Cruse or other bereavement support. Here is a link to the Marie Curie support page
www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/support-directory/bereavement-and-funerals

Oreo Sun 17-Dec-23 22:51:02

Aveline

I'm so very sorry. What devastation for you. I wish I could say or do something meaningful but all I can offer is my most sincere condolences. thanks

Same here. A terrible time for you and I wish you strength to deal with it.💐

crazyH Sun 17-Dec-23 22:54:36

So, so sorry Junie - I just can’t imagine your pain flowers

Summerfly Sun 17-Dec-23 23:02:11

Oh Junie, I’m so, so sorry for your loss. You must be devastated. There are no words anyone can say right now to make it all better. I hope you have friends and family who are there for you. 💐

coffeecup Mon 18-Dec-23 00:29:30

I am so sorry to read about your son. Please accept my deepest condolences. I cannot imagine your pain.

V3ra Mon 18-Dec-23 01:17:16

Juniewoonie that's just an awful thing to have happened. You must be in a state of complete shock.
I hope you are getting support from your own doctor xx

cornergran Mon 18-Dec-23 06:45:53

Sending love junie, I can find no words that are adequate. So, so sorry.

mumofmadboys Mon 18-Dec-23 06:59:51

Thinking of you xx

nadateturbe Mon 18-Dec-23 07:03:48

So very sorry junie.
Know that we are all thinking of you. x

Marg75 Mon 18-Dec-23 07:06:55

Junie, there are no words really, except to offer you love and to know that you are in all of our thoughts.

luluaugust Mon 18-Dec-23 07:44:13

So very sorry Junie

Allsorts Mon 18-Dec-23 07:51:52

Juniewoonie, I am so dreadfully sorry. Your heart is broken just take one day at a time, be kind to yourself and I do hope you have people round you to put their arms round you. This forum is here for you. That close bond and happiness you shared for 30 years will sustain you, he will always be in your heart, just a heartbeat away.💐.

Greenfinch Mon 18-Dec-23 12:22:17

Another one who is thinking of you Junie

Cath9 Tue 26-Dec-23 18:32:36

I am sure you must be feeling lost.
Have you any close siblings living near by? Other than this do get in touch with a bereavement councillor.
There is a lady who lives in my road who has lost two husbands due to cancer and a son who was about the same age as your son, so you are not alone. Do get help

LauraNorderr Tue 26-Dec-23 18:43:11

Oh Junie, I’m so very sorry for your loss, I can’t begin to imagine your pain, my heart goes out to you.