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Bereavement

Loss of adult son

(66 Posts)
Juniewoonie Sun 17-Dec-23 08:40:59

I’m a widow and three weeks ago lost my only adult son. It was only ten short days from diagnosis to death from adrenal cancer. I’m absolutely broken! How on earth do I go on? He was my comfort and joy. He was only 30 years old. He has left a void in my life that I don’t think I can ever recover from. Never to love or be loved again.

Oldbat1 Tue 26-Dec-23 19:28:56

I am really sorry about your son.

Baggs Tue 26-Dec-23 19:35:39

Oh, Junie, you must still be in a state of shock. I hope you have someone to comfort you a little flowers.

Chrissielou Tue 26-Dec-23 19:48:05

Because there are simply no words to bring you comfort, I want to say I'm thinking of you at this terrible time.

Norah Tue 26-Dec-23 19:48:54

I am so sorry. flowers

Perhaps Church has a bereavement group of some sort?

Do seek out some help.

Fartooold Wed 03-Jan-24 19:34:21

Juno’s, I know how you feel, I too am a widow my lovely husband died 18 months ago and my son in September both of cancer. Life is intolerable but I have 3 adopted “children” special needs to keep me focused.
My heart goes out to you, stay strong and take care of yourself xx

Fartooold Wed 03-Jan-24 19:35:11

Sorry auto correct Junie

JaneJudge Wed 03-Jan-24 19:37:32

I'm sorry Junie flowers what a cruel thing to happen x

Franbern Sat 06-Jan-24 16:23:31

Junie, nothing anyone can say or do is going to take away your total devastation at the moment. But time....- a lot of time does slowly help. My youngest child died at the age of 25, a dreadful accident - no chances to even say our goodbyes. This was 22 years ago, but I still talk to him so much and have photos of him all around my flat. I am fortunate in that there were other children and since then, g.children.

Nothing ever replaces the loss of a child. However, in that deepest of grief, I knew that the last thing he would have wanted was for me to waste the rest of my life in grief. I have to live for both of us.

It will be two years or more before you can really start to get past this,, Take your time, be kind to yourself, talk to everyone and anyone about your son.

There are some wonderful grief groups out there, use them and anyone amongst your family and friends who give any support.

grannybuy Sat 06-Jan-24 16:30:50

Thinking of you at this very heartbreaking time.

Celieanne86 Sat 06-Jan-24 16:37:28

Dear Junie as the mother of adult sons my heart goes out to you at this terrible time, I can hardly begin to imagine what you are going through. It’s only words but I send you my most sincere and deepest sympathy and pray you find the strength to get through the days ahead. 💜

Cabbie21 Sat 06-Jan-24 16:48:15

I am so sorry for your loss. I missed this back in December. I don’t know how I would have coped without my son after my husband died last year. I wonder how you are managing, Junie? I hope you have some support.

Grandyma Sat 06-Jan-24 16:49:45

I have no words to comfort you but you are in my thoughts 💐

BrightandBreezy Sat 06-Jan-24 17:31:05

Heartfelt sympathy to you Junie in your tragic loss.

Tenko Sat 06-Jan-24 17:42:14

Junie I’m so sorry to hear your tragic news about your son. Thinking of you and sending deepest sympathy 💐

silverlining48 Sat 06-Jan-24 18:20:10

Junie I am still thinking of you. There are a number of grans here who have lost adult children, a terrible thing, but you are not alone. Hope you are ok, take care.
A day at a time, flowers