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Bereavement

Loss of adult son

(66 Posts)
Juniewoonie Sun 17-Dec-23 08:40:59

I’m a widow and three weeks ago lost my only adult son. It was only ten short days from diagnosis to death from adrenal cancer. I’m absolutely broken! How on earth do I go on? He was my comfort and joy. He was only 30 years old. He has left a void in my life that I don’t think I can ever recover from. Never to love or be loved again.

coffeecup Mon 18-Dec-23 00:29:30

I am so sorry to read about your son. Please accept my deepest condolences. I cannot imagine your pain.

Summerfly Sun 17-Dec-23 23:02:11

Oh Junie, I’m so, so sorry for your loss. You must be devastated. There are no words anyone can say right now to make it all better. I hope you have friends and family who are there for you. 💐

crazyH Sun 17-Dec-23 22:54:36

So, so sorry Junie - I just can’t imagine your pain flowers

Oreo Sun 17-Dec-23 22:51:02

Aveline

I'm so very sorry. What devastation for you. I wish I could say or do something meaningful but all I can offer is my most sincere condolences. thanks

Same here. A terrible time for you and I wish you strength to deal with it.💐

Litterpicker Sun 17-Dec-23 19:24:20

Junie, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you will feel able to contact Cruse or other bereavement support. Here is a link to the Marie Curie support page
www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/support-directory/bereavement-and-funerals

SueDonim Sun 17-Dec-23 18:30:56

I am so sorry, Junie, such unbearable losses. flowers

Kandinsky Sun 17-Dec-23 17:49:22

So very sorry.
Unimaginable grief that no words can heal.
Sending you much love & strength xx

Shelflife Sun 17-Dec-23 17:34:36

Nothing I can ' say' will ease your grief. I can not begin to imagine the distress you are in, what I can do is put myself in your position and recognize your pain . Please know that everyone on GN is thinking of you . I send you ((( hugs ))) and sincerely hope you find some comfort and strength be from friends and family. 🌺🌺

Desdemona Sun 17-Dec-23 17:31:14

There are no satisfactory words.

Sending you all the love in the world xxxx

Smileless2012 Sun 17-Dec-23 17:25:27

There are no words Juniewoonie as 'I'm so very sorry' is woefully inadequate flowers.

MamGu12 Sun 17-Dec-23 17:22:27

Virtual

MamGu12 Sun 17-Dec-23 17:21:14

No words just a virual 🤗 🥲x

Urmstongran Sun 17-Dec-23 17:16:28

Oh Junie at times like this there are really no words. Your loss is so profound and utterly heartbreaking.
Xx

garnet25 Sun 17-Dec-23 17:11:49

Oh Junie I feel for you so very much and send my heartfelt sympathy. Our younger son died suddenly of a heart attack at the age of 30 so I understand some of what you are feel. Thankfully though my husband was still alive as was my older son. You must feel totally bereft. One thing that helped me was to write to him and I still "chat" to him every day and try and figure out what he would think about what's happening in the world. You son will always be with you in your heart. Sending loving thoughts and hugs. x

Chocolatelovinggran Sun 17-Dec-23 16:30:17

Junie I am so sorry to hear this. Such a terrible thing to happen and no time to prepare. I can do nothing but say that I hope other people around you can offer some comfort.

vintage1950 Sun 17-Dec-23 11:17:35

flowers flowers juniewoonie, at this awful time.

HousePlantQueen Sun 17-Dec-23 11:14:40

I am so very sorry, my son is the same age and to think about losing him is just beyond anything. I have nothing to offer but my sympathy, and as others have said, GN is always here, many have found solace from just knowing that there is someone else there who is listening to you, any time day or night. So, so sorry.

Serendipity22 Sun 17-Dec-23 11:02:06

Xxxxxxx

You're in my thoughts xxxxxx

merlotgran Sun 17-Dec-23 10:59:05

I am so sorry for your loss, Junie. I lost my DD from a similar diagnosis and understand the pain and heartbreak you are feeling. I can’t offer any advice as to how you go on because all I know is you just do somehow despite the fact that grief is harder to bear when accompanied by shock.

Do you have friends or extended family to support you? Accept every bit of help you are offered. Take everything slowly one step at a time and look after yourself.

As silverlining said, We are here and Gransnet was a welcome support to me when I needed it.

Wishing you strength for the days ahead.

Luckygirl3 Sun 17-Dec-23 10:53:28

Such a very sad time for you - life can be so cruel. Sending a hand hold and sympathy. Lean on friends and family - let them help you.
I second the advice about Cruse - they are very good indeed.

Doodledog Sun 17-Dec-23 10:47:23

Oh, I’m so sorry to read this. I can only begin to imagine how devastating it must be. Life is so very unfair sometimes.

Have you contacted Cruse? They offer bereavement support and their number is 0300 201 0051.

My DIL lost her brother in his early 20s, and her family found them helpful with the practicalities as well as the devastating emotional distress.

Peep Sun 17-Dec-23 10:45:50

💐 and sympathy for your devastating loss. Hope you have someone to take care of you.

nanna8 Sun 17-Dec-23 10:45:06

So sorry Junie. Hope you have someone to hug and spend Christmas with. I don’t know you, of course, but very sad for your loss at this time .💐

toscalily Sun 17-Dec-23 10:41:00

I am so sorry for your loss. No words are adequate for the pain & sadness you will be feeling, perhaps you can take some small comfort in knowing others are thinking of you flowers

henetha Sun 17-Dec-23 10:36:38

I am so sad for you. Please accept my deepest sympathy, and I pray that peace will eventually come to you. Sending you a big hug.