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Mothers ‘rights’ at her sons funeral

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Calendargirl Thu 01-Aug-24 12:19:12

Sending sincere condolences.

It doesn’t seem an unreasonable request, and hope that your son’s partner agrees to it.

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JaneJudge Thu 01-Aug-24 12:07:53

I'm sorry about your son. Talk to your son's partner. You need one another more than ever now so just ask her, I'm sure she'll say yes flowers

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crazyH Thu 01-Aug-24 12:04:51

So, so sorry for the loss of your son. YANBU - it’s a mother’s request and I’m sure, it will be granted flowers

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AGAA4 Thu 01-Aug-24 12:00:54

So sorry for the loss of your son. I think to ask for a song to be played at his funeral is not unreasonable. You had a special relationship with him as his mum.

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tanith Thu 01-Aug-24 11:58:59

I included DHs siblings in planning his funeral, I cant think she would object to a very reasonable request. So sorry for your loss🌻

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Greenfinch Thu 01-Aug-24 11:33:09

I think that is a very sincere and genuine request and totally acceptable . I am sure his partner would be thankful for you input and any support you can give.

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aonk Thu 01-Aug-24 11:32:22

I’m so sorry for your loss.
Of course I don’t know you or your family but it doesn’t seem to me unreasonable that you would like this song. Just ask quietly and explain the significance for you. I wanted a particular reading at the funeral of DH1 but the priest wasn’t happy. A friend spoke to him and explained the importance and then he understood. My thoughts are with you.

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Smileless2012 Thu 01-Aug-24 11:30:47

My sincere condolences for the loss of your son Mynxie flowers.

I see no reason why suggestion of a particular song from his mum would be regarded as unreasonable or insensitive.

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Mynxie Thu 01-Aug-24 11:21:35

Firstly, I’m not looking to fight or to make anyone’s life more difficult than it is already for the family at the moment. I’m just looking for a consensus on whether I’m being reasonable in my request.

My son died very suddenly last week leaving two young sons and his long term partner (and mother of his children) Obviously we are all in tremendous shock and my focus is in making sure my grandchildren and his partner have all the help I can give them.
I would really like a certain song played at his funeral (nothing strange or contentious just something that means a lot to me and the words convey how I feel) Would it be unreasonable for me to make my wishes known or is it too insensitive? I couldn’t care less about anything else to do with the funeral but seem fixated on wanting this one song….

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