Missing someone

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MissAdventure

I certainly remember your handsome man, Isummer.
You posted perhaps a wedding pic (?) at sometime, and said that he was very ill now.
He had such a kind face.

Oh yes I remember, we posted pictures of our wedding days. Thank you Miss A he was a lovely man. He died 8 days before our 40th anniversary.

Losing a child, no matter their age is the worst thing in the world. I lost my beautiful daughter at just 4months old, my sister lost hers at 28yrs and my sil lost her son at 17yrs. The pain never leaves us does it?
Sending you big hugs and love MissA 💐

I certainly remember your handsome man, Isummer.
You posted perhaps a wedding pic (?) at sometime, and said that he was very ill now.
He had such a kind face.

My DH died just 2 years ago and I have just been ill for the first time in along time. A really bad dose of Covid, it threw everything at me ( I tested due to having to go into hospital tomorrow for a small procedure).
I was weeping due to him not being here to help me, getting me a drink of water, cup of tea, slice of toast. I feel guilty as I know lots of people live alone and have to cope but I miss him so much.

MissA - it is so hard for you and I am sending lots of hugs.

My OH died 4 years ago, but last Weds was his birthday and yesterday was mine so it all comes into sharper focus.

The grief walks beside us however hard we work at continuing with some sort of normal life. Mostly I think I have learned to live with it, but memories of him when he was normal creep back and it is hard not to resent all that was and has been lost.

I agree that we are all resilient. Losing a child is the worst. Thankfully it hasn't happened to me but my lovely nephew died at 16 (my brother's son). We all went through that nightmare together. My brother's wife died a few years later at 49. How my brother has picked himself up after his double tragedies is beyond me. But he has.

MissAdventure

Just a thread for anyone who is feeling their loss keenly at anytime, and however long it's been.

Finding it all quite a struggle these last few months, missing my girl, but I don't really have anyone to tell.

I'm listening.

We've 4 daughters. I was pregnant 8 times. I miss those we didn't raise, life has hard times built in - with loss, the struggle never ends.

Grammaretto

Oh MissA. It's horrible 😢.
This time of year too.
DH died nearly 4 years ago and I wish he'd just walk in the door now.
I try speaking to him. Maybe it helps a bit.
I try so hard to keep strong and busy but there is just no-one to replace him.
Hugs for us all. 🤗 ❤️

I can remember some of the members bereavements (cant remember what I did yesterday!) and always thought you were very resilient.

I know that feeling of just imagining the door opening and our missed people coming in, just how we remember them.

MissAdventure 💐

Bang on all you want to on here MissA most of us have lost someone close and relate to how you feel. Good days and bad ones, we all know about that.
Thinking of you

Oh MissA. It's horrible 😢.
This time of year too.
DH died nearly 4 years ago and I wish he'd just walk in the door now.
I try speaking to him. Maybe it helps a bit.
I try so hard to keep strong and busy but there is just no-one to replace him.
Hugs for us all. 🤗 ❤️

Mrs knit your own coffee morning sounds fun, Kitty.

It's all the "in jokes" that you miss too, isn't it?

I always want to say I have an "appoinkment" because that's what we said.

Sometimes its liveable, and i can pack it away in a box on my head. Other times I can't. MissA* that’s the nature of grief. Although I have recently experienced my own loss, I can’t imagine the agony of losing a child. I don’t know how you come back from it and I don’t wonder you are finding it a struggle. The loss of a life half lived is deeply different to that of a life long lived. My heart goes out to you.💐
Kitty, I would have liked your friend😁!

I feel upset just reading this thread your daughter was brave she is still with you in your heart and will be forever. Keep talking about her never be put off my heart goes out to you it really does.
I miss my parents I wish they still lived ten minutes walk away. I miss my best friend I worked with him before I had my son over 35yrs ago. We kept in touch and he watched my children grow up I loved him dearly.

MissA and for everyone who misses someone.

We lost one of our lovely girls, our neighbour last August after she suffered a catastrophic stroke and died in her early 40's.
I still expect to see her.

MissAdventure

The threads for anyone, at any time, kitty.
Losing such a close friend must be like losing part of your life, in a way.

You can always post your darkest secrets here to us - we won't tell a soul!

Well, since you ask - she would have 'got' exactly why I spent half an hour in Waitrose avoiding a mutual acquaintance- she called 'Mrs knit your own coffee morning'. Who else would get that!!

Thanks, MissA ! The thread made me smile.

I feel a,little better now I look like I've been pulled through a bush backwards.

It never does go away. I have learned to live with losing the only person I could talk to about anything but I miss the sharing of little every day things still.
MissA 💐 I know how hard it is.

You're not upsetting anyone. Most of us have lost people, some young as in my family. This thread is supportive.

Oh I didn't mean to upset anyone by it.
I'm hoping it might help people.
Thank you though, for being so kind.

I haven’t any wise words to offer, MissA - I don’t think there are any, to be honest. I’ve had reason lately to think deeply on this subject and my heart goes out to all who are missing irreplaceable loved ones in their lives.

Your post made me feel so sad. Tears in my eyes.
Just keep on loving her, and come here for hugs.

Thanks, Su
I think it settles into a more evenly distributed sorrow, but it's just as heavy as the day it happened.
It's a lot to lug around, so this is a place to put it down and have a rest for a short while.

As I said, it's for everyone, not just me, because that makes me feel uncomfortable.

MissA sending you a big hug,

They say it gets easier with time but I am still waiting it's 3 years next month since I lost my husband and not a day goes by when he is not in my thoughts.