Missing someone

MissA sending a big hug ❤️I remember when your daughter died such a difficult time and it never ends does it ?
Quite different because they were old but I still miss my mum and Dad so much and it’s 12 years but I can still break down and cry ( like now) when I think of them
If we could just have them back for an hour to hold them and love them
Take care xx

I'm so sorry about your daughter, MissAdventure,

My best friend from school and throughout my life died 2 years ago. I miss her.

Life can be so very sad

No, it doesn't ever end - it changes you forever, but who on earth would want to listen to me banging on about it, year in, year out?

I miss my mum, too, I think I appreciate her more now she's dead.

Sounds daft, but it's only now I think of how she just kept soldiering on until she wore out.

Do you have a Cruise group near you? or maybe go into a local church and ask to speak to a member of the clergy.. it is such a relief to be able to talk.. I hope you can find someone soon..

MissA

I have never missed anyone the way I miss my brother who died less than six months ago.
It feels like a hole in my body that won't be filled. He got on my nerves but we were very close and no one seems to realise I miss him desperately, because he was 'just my brother'. We were almost twins.
A few years ago I moved to be nearer my family, so we would go for coffee pretty much on a weekly basis. We went to concerts and shows together, we had a love of similar things.He would ring and ask if I'd like to go for a cuppa, just small things but I could talk to him about things I rarely spoke about to anyone else.
I tell myself no one can miss him more than his widow, so I do spend time with her as we get on very well, but it isn't the same as having him there.
Thankyou for starting this thread as it helps to express the deep sadness I feel at the loss of my life's companion and my irreplaceable friend. My lovely brother I was so lucky to have beside me all my life.

Oh I've had counselling, but talking doesnt take away the bare fact that I miss my daughter. Sometimes its liveable, and i can pack it away in a box on my head.

Other times I can't.

Sending hugs, MissA.

Not the same at all but my 'best' friend died in January and I miss her every day. No one to send cryptic messages to, chat to for hours, have tea and cakes with etc etc.

Obviously, there are people but no one who is the whole thing.

I think that's absolutely normal. There's no 'one size fits all' when it comes to grief, and sometimes it just creeps up and hits you right between the eyes when you least expect it. If you feel you can't talk to anyone else about it, at least you can come on here and let those feelings out and know others will understand.

I'm not surprised you miss him, keepingquiet.
That kind of easy companionship is almost impossible to find.
The kind that comes naturally...

The threads for anyone, at any time, kitty.
Losing such a close friend must be like losing part of your life, in a way.

You can always post your darkest secrets here to us - we won't tell a soul!

🧡 thinking of you MissA xx

Thank you. X

MissA sending you a big hug,

They say it gets easier with time but I am still waiting it's 3 years next month since I lost my husband and not a day goes by when he is not in my thoughts.

Thanks, Su
I think it settles into a more evenly distributed sorrow, but it's just as heavy as the day it happened.
It's a lot to lug around, so this is a place to put it down and have a rest for a short while.

As I said, it's for everyone, not just me, because that makes me feel uncomfortable.

Your post made me feel so sad. Tears in my eyes.
Just keep on loving her, and come here for hugs.

I haven’t any wise words to offer, MissA - I don’t think there are any, to be honest. I’ve had reason lately to think deeply on this subject and my heart goes out to all who are missing irreplaceable loved ones in their lives.

Oh I didn't mean to upset anyone by it.
I'm hoping it might help people.
Thank you though, for being so kind.

You're not upsetting anyone. Most of us have lost people, some young as in my family. This thread is supportive.

It never does go away. I have learned to live with losing the only person I could talk to about anything but I miss the sharing of little every day things still.
MissA 💐 I know how hard it is.

I feel a,little better now I look like I've been pulled through a bush backwards.

MissAdventure

The threads for anyone, at any time, kitty.
Losing such a close friend must be like losing part of your life, in a way.

You can always post your darkest secrets here to us - we won't tell a soul!

Well, since you ask - she would have 'got' exactly why I spent half an hour in Waitrose avoiding a mutual acquaintance- she called 'Mrs knit your own coffee morning'. Who else would get that!!

Thanks, MissA ! The thread made me smile.

MissA and for everyone who misses someone.

We lost one of our lovely girls, our neighbour last August after she suffered a catastrophic stroke and died in her early 40's.
I still expect to see her.

I feel upset just reading this thread your daughter was brave she is still with you in your heart and will be forever. Keep talking about her never be put off my heart goes out to you it really does.
I miss my parents I wish they still lived ten minutes walk away. I miss my best friend I worked with him before I had my son over 35yrs ago. We kept in touch and he watched my children grow up I loved him dearly.