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Booked a Twixmas Break for just me in local hotel on impulse

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BA69 Thu 19-Dec-24 12:16:21

I have already posted on here about being recently widowed and being on my own for Christmas this year which I was dealing with. However, for some reason the other day I decided, completely on impulse to book a break for the 3 days between Xmas and NY in a local hotel in my home town of Blackpool. It will be the first time I have ever been on a break on my own as I was married for 53 years and we did everything together. I think it will do be good, get me out of my rut and there will be entertainment on every night and meals provided at half the cost of the Xmas period, so I am starting a new tradition for myself.Most of the people there will be from other towns and hopefully they will be friendly But I am also nervous, looking forward to it one minute and dreading it the next. It doesn't help that people keep saying "going on your own" in a sympathetic voice Have I done the right thing I will let you know how I get on

Shelflife Thu 19-Dec-24 16:16:55

You will have a lovely time! Good for you , enjoy your stay. It's a brave move but I feel sure you will not regret it . Let us know how much you enjoyed it when you get home.

V3ra Thu 19-Dec-24 16:28:16

BA69 you could contact the hotel and ask if they make any arrangements for solo travellers, eg a particular table in the dining room you can sit at with others if you would like to.
I've heard of that happening on cruise ships.

Juniewoonie Thu 19-Dec-24 16:33:21

I think it’s a fabulous idea, I’m sure everyone will be friendly and I bet the staff go the extra mile to look after you. In fact I might even copy your idea xx

Parsley3 Thu 19-Dec-24 16:42:14

Excellent idea, well done you. Have a lovely time.

62Granny Thu 19-Dec-24 16:51:17

Brilliant idea , I am sure you will enjoy at least you will not have to think about preparing a meal and washing up.

Astitchintime Thu 19-Dec-24 17:03:02

Well done BA69 and I hope you have a fabulous time.

TwiceAsNice Thu 19-Dec-24 17:08:35

I think it’s great, have a lovely time. I’ve not done it in a hotel but have gone back to where I’ve lived most of my life for a break and stayed alone in an Airbnb . However having all your meals provided sounds fab. Enjoy and do exactly as you like that can be very freeing I find

Grammaretto Thu 19-Dec-24 17:23:44

What a good idea and well done booking it.
I keep meaning to try something similar but haven't yet.

I've invited myself to my DS for a couple of nights followed by NY at DSis. It should be OK and a chance
to see them.

Let us know how it goes BA69

ExDancer Thu 19-Dec-24 17:33:37

My husband hates holidays so I go alone. I'm now 85.
I go abroad as well as here in the UK and have always enjoyed myself. As advised, if you are uncomfortable eating alone -take a book or kindle, and don't be shy at talking to strangers.

hollysteers Thu 19-Dec-24 17:42:12

Sounds good. Onward and upwards BA69. I love staying in hotels whatever is happening in my life and you deserve to be waited on after a difficult time.🎄💕

Iam64 Thu 19-Dec-24 20:35:07

What an excellent idea. Hope you have a really good time

pascal30 Thu 19-Dec-24 22:12:00

Great idea.. .Have a really fun time..

lemsip Thu 19-Dec-24 22:16:12

what a great idea! I will do that next year

bikergran Thu 19-Dec-24 22:20:42

Brilliant! I would possibly do the same if I was on my own.

tinaf1 Thu 19-Dec-24 22:25:10

I hope you have great time 👍

Whiff Fri 20-Dec-24 06:46:15

BA69 you will soon get friendly with people and find others doing it for the same reasons you are . Your husband would be proud of you . While you miss your other half of yourself you still have a life to live and he wouldn't want you to be alone over Christmas. So have a ball and make new friends and raise a glass or 2 to the love of your life and wish him happy Christmas. 🎄🥂

NotAGran55 Fri 20-Dec-24 06:56:17

Have a great time BA69. I would do the same in your shoes too. Look forward to hearing all about it.

LauraNorderr Fri 20-Dec-24 07:00:05

Great choice BA69, get out there and live for the moment. Have a lovely time x

NanKate Fri 20-Dec-24 07:29:18

Well done BA69 for booking yourself a short holiday. 👍

My friend who has now been a widow for 20 years has booked holidays on her own from the very start. She has stayed in caravans, small hotels, Premier Inns. Then she has visited places of interest in the locality.

She eats out at lunchtime then takes a picnic to her bedroom in the evening and watches the tv.

You are part of a trend of resilient women.

Redhead56 Fri 20-Dec-24 09:19:43

Have a nice little break and enjoy yourself mingle and get to know like minded people. It could be a new tradition you start for yourself when you have a quiet time come back to us and chat away🎄

mamaa Fri 20-Dec-24 09:46:20

Great idea, have a lovely time. I grew up in Blackpool and when I was a student I worked during the holidays, in a midsized/large hotel on Central Prom.
The Christmas holidays were always fun, didn’t feel like work, and by the time the festivities were over everyone knew everyone else staying there for the Christmas period and it became like family.
People from all walks of life, some solo, some couples, some in friendship/family groups- all had one thing in common, to enjoy their time and let others spoil them.
Hopefully you’ll find similar and will have a great few days away. x

aonk Fri 20-Dec-24 14:04:20

DH and I have often stayed in a seaside hotel for New Year. There are usually several ladies on their own. We always make a point of talking to them as do other guests and they are seated together if they wish. Go with an open mind and you’ll enjoy the break.

Oldbat1 Fri 20-Dec-24 15:28:53

Hope you have a good time.

Jaxjacky Fri 20-Dec-24 15:35:35

Have a brilliant time BA69

Oldnproud Fri 20-Dec-24 20:49:38

Well done. I hope you a lovely time.