Sending a bereavement card to someone you haven't seen for years

I would …..

Yes, I'd do that.

It doesnt seem you'd be overstepping the mark at all.

Yes. An absolutely kind gesture. We had loads of cards from people from years gone by, for dad. I think your ex will be pleased that you remembered his sister with fondness.

Yes - that’s very kind of you and I’m sure it will be appreciated.

Yes do it. Is a really nice gesture. Am sure the brother will appreciate that you remembered her.
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I think that would be kind. You only get one chance at this sort of thing.

Yes - wearing the boot on the other foot, I think your ex-boyfriend would appreciate the gesture,

Yes I would too. You obviously loved him once, it would be a lovely gesture

Yes, I would too.

Too many years gone by if you never kept any contact why bother 🤷‍♀️ Sorry over 30, years ago since last contact ….

I think GrannyIvy has been outvoted.
I too would send a card, from my own experience it will be appreciated.

I would send a message.I am sure they will appreciate a kind message.It shows you are thinking about them.
Barbarax

Yes, send the card. It can do no harm and may give them comfort that you remembered the time you had with them.

I think it's a lovely idea, and nothing inappropriate about it. I think it's expected that long forgotten people get in touch when they find out about someone they knew well died. I've just recently done it myself, and there were no hard feelings from their relatives . In fact, they appreciated that I remembered their loved one.

Yes sure I would maybe if you look online at a local paper to them it usually lists death notices, then you would be able to see if there is a chosen charity for donation.
if you do maybe put a small note at the bottom of the card saying you have made a donation to the chosen charity

Yes, do send the card and make the donation. It's a lovely gesture.

A huge yes from me.

Absolutely YES! These things mean a great deal to bereaved people.

To be honest and in general, I cannot see any reason not to send a bereavement card to someone you have not seen for years. You obviously have a choice, but this small gesture of kindness is felt. I recently sent a card to someone I had not seen for over 55 years and had no hesitation whatsoever in doing so.

I would send a card

When my son died I was amazed at the number of cards we received, many of them from people we didn't even know. At his funeral, too, there were so many people that they couldn't all fit into the church. It meant a great deal to us and I think the family of your ex's sister would also be touched to receive a card from you.

You must.

I think he'd be very comforted that you remembered him and his sister.. good idea..

I too would send a card. All condolences help a little.